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Debi-Tishri1 posted a blog entry in Debi-Tishri1's BlogLadies and Gents The scale really messes with your mind sometimes ...One day it boosts your motivation and the next day it will destroys it..... What will happen when we get to goal, will the scale bring us a reward then? How bout even when we are below our goal (and it will happen) will the scale give us a prize and, put our name in lights!!!? Will the scale seem so powerful in our mind when we are at goal or will the goal WE achieved be our focus then and the scale will simply fade into the back ground finally like it should be..... For most people, the scale is the task master telling us whether it approves of us that day or whether it disapproves of us...and perhaps even worst it tells us what the rest of the world will think about us today.... How much weight did you loose.....ummmm let me ask my scale.... How did the tool to collect data for us get sooooooo much power from us that it will actually determine how we feel and how we act each day... If you have an up and down relationship with your bathroom scale, I'm right there with you and I feel it just as strongly.....We should have even/positive emotions everyday and our actions should stay consistent with someone moving in the direction of his/her goals. In fact having the ability to sustain even/ positive emotions is key to successful weight loss. The scale needs to be demoted and WE need a promotion....I'm all for giving us a raise! Let the scale become that thing that works for us again not the other way around:) I'm gonna tell my scale(with a smile): "HEY I'm the boss of you and you will be my servant....Your job is to provide me with some daily/weekly data as I need it and as I move myself to my goal, "
Why do we sabotage our goals? Its a difficult question to answer because its done subconsciously. Call it homeostasis, call it bad programming, being "wired that way".... What ever it is, it can be corrected in our brains but not by ignoring the problem and wishing it away. There are many odd things we do without thinking or we may even tell ourselves "It wont hurt just this one time" . But we all know consciously, that is not true at all! At one time the action of rewarding ourselves with food may have had it's benefits. At one time perhaps self soothing with food did something good for us. But now we have learned that emotional eating is a hindrance and does not benefit us in the least. Recognizing this as a bad habit or subconscious trigger is the first step. Addressing it and moving forward toward a fix is the next. We must reprogram our minds to accept that this behavior does not serve us anymore and replace it with an action that will. One thing I recognize is that all these sabotaging behaviors follow the same pattern. Namely I am trying to get an inner goal met subconsciously, only now it conflicts with my outer goal of losing lbs. That inner emotional goal is the same as my outer emotional goal. I simply want to be happy and have gratification in my life. The sad fact is the way my subconscious wants to get there does not work for my body anymore. It use to!! But not anymore....Emotional Eating does NOT equate to happiness for any overweight adult, and it is NOT gratifying. Why do we think food will lead to happiness and why do we still think food is gratifying us emotionally somehow? Because our minds believe it is so! We need to replace food "happiness" for other "real" gratifying triggers for happiness. The fact is the source of Emotional Eating is our emotional well being and meeting that need. Lets start there and find a different way to be in the moment with happiness.... One way to break subconscious triggers and programming is to live in the moment consciously, consistently and always follow a plan that you create before even leaving the house for the day. After a while this planning of your day will take over and you will do these actions without thinking. Subconscious goal achieved!!! The second thing is most important... Find or develop a constant flow of joy that will fulfill your emotional well being. You will naturally and easily move toward your goal if you already have happiness turned on in the morning instead of looking for gratification in that next meal or snack. Gratification is simply your subconscious looking for a quick trigger to turn on that happiness and joy. Its usually linked to food. If its turned on before that first meal already, there is less work controlling and fixing emotional eating. Here is a nice fact: Your brain cannot hold onto two opposing emotions at the same time. So its the happy that helps you lose weight. And the happy can come from anywhere and be just as effective in moving you to goal. A funny joke or two, a warm or funny movie, show, book.... coloring books for adults, posting in your Jenny Community , all can make us feel happy. Walking the dog, looking at art, walking along the beach or on a beautiful nature trail can also bring joy to one's heart... If your an emotional eater set a trigger for joy and contentment that isn't food based. Make up your mind that your emotional well being is a priority this year. Your motivation to get to your goals in life are emotion based and therefore are as much a priority this year as weight-loss and exercise. And remember you can train your brain to switch from a negative emotional state to a positive one by being proactive in seeking Joy and Happiness around every turn and be in the moment, moment by moment to train your subconscious to give up bad habits that no longer serve you. I am open to support you in this....let me know how I can help ok? My next blog post will help you set triggers for an instant jolt of happy....
My best guy friend likes a girl. This is good, especially since I really wondered if he'd ever get over the harpy who ripped his heart out and tap danced on it a few years ago. It's also hard, though. The only reason he and I have become such good friends is because of what happened with the harpy. When she dumped him, I was in the middle of being unemployed. We were both really depressed, and found that we were kindred spirits. It's one of those rare friendships where we can say anything to each other, and still be friends afterwards. I know that should anything happen with this girl (and even if it doesn't, I know he's going to end up with someone one of these days), the dynamic of our friendship will change. I don't doubt that we'll still be good friends, but things will have to change. No more 2 a.m. Facebook convos or going to movies alone. However, if he's happy it'll be a good thing. Food was off today. I started out well, but life happened and got in the way of being successful I'm not trying to make excuses. Part of it is my fault, because until I start showing real results I'm not telling anyone that I'm on JC. Whether or not this is a good thing I have yet to decide. I know I shouldn't care what people think, but I just don't want to be judged. Anyway, here's how my food intake turned out: Breakfast: Breakfast stuffed sandwich, kiwi, milk Lunch: Baked potato w/ cheese, salad, lemon pie(this was unplanned, non-JC. I don't even like baked potatoes. I got stuck unable to get home to my food, and the person I was with was insistent she was going to feed me and wouldn't take no for an answer. I had to be with this person, though, because we've got very different schedules, and I'm supposed to be dog/house sitting for her in a few weeks. Today was the only chance we had to get together for me to see the house and meet the dogs.) Supper: Stuffed shells, chocolate peanut butter caramel bar, milk. It just wasn't a brilliant day. Plus I ended up taking an unplanned, ridiculously long nap, so everything feels disjointed. Tomorrow has got to go better, right? At least I'll be at work and no one can interfere with my eating.