Sunshine521

Overwhelmed - Too much weight to lose!

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Once again I am back trying to lose weight. I came back to JC because my membership was about to expire. So I thought that I would try again. I am just overwhelmed with the amount of weight I have to lose. I know what is expected of me, how to do it, etc. However, just the thought of how much I need to lose and how long it will take overwhelms me before I have even started! I have tried to take it in small increments and set small goals. I start off doing great. Then I have a slip up, gain a pound and don't want to go back to JC until I have lost the pound plus more (too embarrassed and ashamed of myself). Well I never lose that pound on my own and end up not going back to JC. It is a vicious cycle. Has anyone had this problem? If so, how do you overcome it? I really want this time to work!

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I think you need to start with a fresh positive perspective. It seems you are expecting failure before you even begin. Having a positive outlook and mind-set can get you long way in this journey. Lots of us here had/have 50lbs or more to loose, you know this and know it CAN be done. It sounds like you know what to do, just have a little faith in yourself.

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You are not alone!! I too have lots of weight to lose! I find so often that our mindset influences our success. Know that you can do it! As my husband always tells me, "It's a marathon, not a sprint." We've all heard, "you didn't put the weight on overnight and it's not going to fall off overnight." blah blah blah... For myself, I had to evaluate why I wanted to lose weight? This time, for me, it's different. I'm doing it this time for my health. Always before, it's been for vanity reasons. I would lose a little, my clothes would fit better, I'd feel better, then gain it all back. This time, I want to be around for my kids. This time, I want to live to grow old. I want to decrease my chance of heart disease, diabetes, cancer, etc... This time I cannot stop until the weight is gone! My first goal is to lose 50, then I will reevaluate to see how much more I want to lose. YOU CAN DO THIS!!! And remember, we're all here to help you reach your goals!!

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Don't be overwhelmed! I try to remember that any weight I lose, even a pound is a pound I am no longer carrying around with me 24/7. And that every day with less fat, sugar, sodium is a healthier day than I was having. Any exercise s a victory too After a few weeks I FELT so much better that is super motivating too. You do not have to be perfect all the time to win at this!! And your JC counselor knows this. Go girl! You are worth it.

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First, you can do this and you will find plenty of support on these forums! Second, JC is there to help you get to your goal weight so it really is the last place you should feel embarrassed if you gained a pound. Think of JC as your safe zone. I know you said you set small goals, but you didn't say what those were. For me (the first time on JC 7 years ago) the best goal/reward for motivating me was to buy an outfit to look forward to and hang it where you can see it every single day. For me I started with a smaller size dress and kept it in my bathroom hanging up every day. Each week I would try that dress on and see how much closer I was to fitting into it. Sometimes you will be surprised to find out that you might be losing inches in places you didn't know even if you didn't lose weight that week. Once you fit into that outfit you will be so proud of yourself. Take some pictures of yourself along the way as well. You will be so happy you did when you go back and look at them along your journey.

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I know exactly what it is like to feel like you have too much to lose. My goal is to lose 216 lbs. Half way there! And you know what, it feels like I just started yesterday. IT goes by fast!

Regarding the slip ups, we alll have them. Heck, when I gain it's usually not .4 lbs. Ok, the one week in my signature shows .1. But that was the one and only time that happened. When I gain it's usually like 2 1/2 lbs. And it suuuucks. But it's just motivation to keep going and lose it the following week. I look at this as a week to week thing. So I slipped and ate really badly one or two days. On Thursday it will re-set. I'll have my gain then I'll work even harder the following week and have a great loss. Just look at your JC WI as a re-set day. No matter what happened the previous week, it starts all over again on your WI day. So put it all behind you and make better choices next time. You just have to make sure you do make those better choices. After a while the number will just be a tool in the new you. Sure I love weeks that I have great loses. I had two weeks where I lost 7 lbs each!! that was awesome. But know what feels better? The fact that Ralph Lauren size 20 jeans fit me!! And that I can wear a dress and it shows a slight curve near my waist instead of straight up and down. That should be your motivation. Looking and feeling better! Come to the forums and participate. IT will help keep you on track and going. Join the challenges that we have going on to help guide you.

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i feel the same way - i have never had to lose this much weight in my life! but this time i decided i needed to do it and do it right. i had started last summer and bombed out right away -my mind was not in it but so far this time i am doing well - lost 20 pounds but i personally can not see it but i have to find other ways to recognize it, like in measurements and feeling better when i exercise. i know it is a long time out to see the end. for me it should be around September or October but then it really is not the end. we do not just lose it and wallaah it is gone for good - this is a life style and a forever way of looking at ourselves.

Rethink your mind set and move ahead and take each victory as a sign you can do it and make smaller goals like losing 10 at a time instead of seeing the larger final goal.

Hope these thoughts help ou

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I have about 100lbs to loose. I'm trying to look at it as a day at a time and not think about the total amount. I'm trying to think about eating healthy and moving each day so I don't feel overwhelmed...

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Sunshine - I totally get where you're coming from (as do so many of us on here)...but it DOES get easier as you get into the groove of the program. I also have about 100 pounds to lose...I'm down app. 35 so far. It really does go by so fast...as quickly as time passes ; )! So, the days and months can pass and we can continue to look, feel and be unhealthy(ier). OR the same amount of time can pass and we can incorporate healthier choices and behaviors and we can morph into our best, healthiest, most fabulous selves.

The time's going to go by no matter what - that's a non-negotiable. What we do have control over is how we make the most of each day and moment. I've posted on here a bunch about how I'm the last one to profess how easy it is to be perfectly on program. That's not me. I like to eat, I like to drink and sometimes I need the flexibility to do both off program - but I balance it with exercise and being on program more than not. And it works - and I feel incredible!

You've got to do what works for you and it sounds like your old cycle isn't - but even if you start with 1 day a week perfectly on program, then bump it to two, then three - you'll be farther along than you may feel now. My intent really isn't to advocate not following the program 100%, 100% of the time. If you can do it, AWESOME! Ultimately, I feel that it's about finding and feeling successful - for me, being totally on program the first 6 weeks, then slowly incorporating a day a week where I could "do/consume" what I want is working. BUT, the more I see and experience the results I have been, the less I want to sabotage my achievements and the way I look and feel. That's just my personality - if you tell me I can't have or do something - that's ALL I'll focus on. However, by being able to focus on what I CAN have on program whenever I want (brownie, French toast, pasta), versus what I can't have because it's 'off program'...I really am feeling less and less deprived. For example, last night I had a work dinner for my spouse. When it was time for dessert, I passed on it because I knew that if it was in front of me, there's no way I would just stop after a bite. The whole thing would be consumed before I even realized it, I'd feel guilty and frustrated, yada yada. Instead, I had a cup of coffee, enjoyed the company and knew I was going home to a warmed JC walnut brownie, drizzled with SF caramel sauce and lite cool whip. Ummm YUM - and I probably saved over 500 calories but still felt totally indulgent.

Ok - I've blabbed more than enough. But know you're not alone, that we all totally get your concerns and fears about all this - but it SOOO works and this summer and fall AND winter (unfortunately) are going to roll around. How do you want to look and feel when you get there?

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Sensational advice from everyone...as usual! The only thing I'd like to add is that I believe most people feel this way when they have a lot to lose. Like you said, you can tell yourself to just take it a little bit at a time, but if you consistently are still concentrating on the big picture and telling everyone that you have to lose sooo much weight, that is what you are going to dwell on too much and get overwhelmed with. Yes, I know that it is impossible to not think about the big picture at all, but the more you tell yourself and others that you are taking it 5 or 10 pounds at a time (and this is when joining the challenges can help you concentrate on these smaller goals), you are more and more likely to reinfore in your mind that baby steps really ARE the way to go in your journey. And as Gwen and others here have said, as daunting as the road ahead looks, as you get through each small goal, it adds up really quickly over time. I just cannot believe how quickly even all the small weight losses added up over the past 11 months.

So, please come and join the challenges each month, no matter how much time is left in them. We all encourage one another daily. If you have a hard day/week, tell us about it. We've all been there, some of us several times. But we pick one another up, dust ourselves off and keep on chugging along. No one said this would be easy...but it is absolutely possible when you lean on others with the same common goals.

Hope to see you there!

(the Easter challenge link is in my siganature)

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Amazing comments, Sandy! I can't wait until I'm 11 months in, approaching the 1 year mark - I can't even imagine how incredible I'll feel ; ). If its 1/2 as good as you, I'll be in great shape!!!

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Thank you, Vin. You are doing an amazing job, and I look forward to reading all your posts. :)

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Y'all inspire me! I go weigh in on Saturday and It will be my fourth week. I have like 75 lbs left to lose also. But we can do it!

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Wow! Thank you all for your responses. There are a lot of great ideas. I am going to go back and re-read these when I start thinking about sabatoging my weight loss. I will definitely continue to read this blog site!

By the way Race Girl, I just picked up my food and the consultant said exactly what you said about considering JC a safe place and not to be embarrased.

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Sunshine,

Maybe part of your struggle is that you aren't appreciating the value of the losses along the way because in the big picture, 5 or 10 pounds doesn't seem very significant. I'm reposting a personal experience here that I posted in another thread and hope it helps some:

OK my friends, to help with motivation and realization of the benefits you are gifting your body, try what I have done.....

The next time you are at the grocery store in the produce department, pick up two 5 pound bags of potatoes and just carry them around for 4 or 5 minutes while looking at veggies. Man, they get heavy and you will be so glad to put them down. That's what our poor bodies feel with each extra ten pounds we have on our bodies. I'm close to being 30 pounds down...that's like 6 bags of potatoes I was forcing my body to carry around all day, every day!! And with 70 some pounds to go, I'm still forcing my body to carry 14 bags of potatoes all day, every day. Poor poor body. Really, try it.....you will truly appreciate the impact of your losses!

The other thing, I did several days ago, and wow! Ok, if you have lots of weight to lose like me and have a big ole belly of fat hanging in front of you....while you are standing, lift that fat blob way up with your hands and forearms, hold it up, and walk around for a minute...ahhhh, you feel such a relief.....then slowly release the blob and feel the pull and drag come back on your entire body.....uuuggghhhh! feels gross and very uncomfortable! We get used to carrying it around and don't realize how bad it really feels and how GREAT it's going to feel when it's gone. Seriously, if you are at home reading this post, stop reading for a minute right now, get up and try it so you don't forget! Oh My Goodness! I do this every other day or so and that peek into the crystal ball soooo helps me stay motivated.

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For decent weight loss detox juice diet is the best option, It's manly contains the fresh fruit and green vegetable that keep you fit in juice fast. Mosty people are scared from juice fast then kale chips is the best option in snacks.

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I feel the same way. Just started back 3 days ago after giving up (at halfway) in 2010. I set my goal for 50 pounds, even though I need to lose 70-80 because it just seemed dauntingly hopeless. So I am setting my sights on losing 50 and then tackling that last 20-30 once I have the hope because of reaching the big goal. And I also have been overweight since about the age of 12 or 13, so I am not sure what my goal weight will look and feel like, so I want to reevaluate once I lose 50.

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Detox juice diets are just a gimmick. You have to eat healthy and exercise. If you can't stand the flavors of fruits or certain veggies sure making a smoothie or something will work. But people shouldn't rely on fad diets for a life long change.

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don't worry iv got quite a bit to lose to and i don't have a choice my back just isnt going to take it after the injury i got. my recommendation is the same as every one else don't give up! if you have a bad day that's OK just stay determined that the next meal will be on par. take it literally one meal at a time. everyone has bad days but the important thing is to realize that even a a pound off is worth celebrating because you've made some progress. like the old saying goes "the journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. keep it up were all here for you! ^_^

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Yes it is very overwhelming!!! It is wonderful to read all these posititive remarks and to see the changes too. I also struggle with the negative self talk and the fear that I will fail again at trying to loose weight!!! But I am going to keep pushing on because I do believe the weight is holding me back and holding me down and I have so many other things I want to do and try!!!

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DeniseL1 that is EXACTLY what you need to tell yourself each and every day - i have too much to do and to try in my life to allow myself to be held back!

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great advise from all, I am so excited to see so much support pouring out! I just started back with JC this week. I have struggled mostly now for 15 years with my weight. now to apoint I need to loose 50 lbs. for me looking at the goal weight is to stressful to me as well. very discouraging. It was like it was to far away. So this time it is definatly day by day goals. Just to complete the food and exercise. It is like a new begining every day, and for me that helps. Maybe that can help you. Plus I think speaking positive things about yourself every day, helps to lift your spirit.

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I have battled with this as well and thought I was the only one. It's my 5th year at JC. I have lost a bunch of weight and gained it all back plus some. I'm now back to finish what I started. The shame I felt when I stayed away from the center was self-imposed. Everyone there has been supportive and non-judgmental. I find that when I honor my self-promises (eat according to plan and do my workouts) I feel confident and accomplished no matter what the scale says - so I'm focusing on my behavior and activities not a number on the scale. Be willing to further your journey a little bit each day. Ask yourself what's the next logical step to take and do it instead of looking at the big picture and getting overwhelmed. Those small steps add up to bigger ones and before you know it you are reaching your goal. The weight does come off if you're consistent. Just stick with it. I know I am. I won't stop until I reach my goal.

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First time I've logged in and am so glad I did. Just wanted to thank you all for reminding me that i am not alone in this journey and for your positivity. Plan on returning to this site on a weekly basis, at least. Best wishes to all.

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