So, it's been a little over 3 weeks now and I really feel motivated and gratified that I've lost a little over 8#...........then, there's that tiny inner voice screaming..........Have you looked in the mirror? What are you so happy about?
I try to dismiss the voice, but some days it's hard to ignore. I wonder if it's just myself being critical --- pushing me so I don't give up, or if it's just all those negative voices I've heard from different people over the years creeping in...............ugh.
My question lies in how to be happy and love all those NSV's? I'm really trying to.......I think I just lose faith that if I celebrate it's the end..............I'm trying to approach this weight loss in a totally different way than before and so putting it all out there is part of it, lol
I've never before done mini goals, or even REALISTIC goals, so let's hear how others have maintained positivity and focus! Thanks for these boards, they are wonderful!
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Started by manthony72, Feb 02 2012 12:44 PM
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Posted 02 February 2012 - 01:35 PM
Oh, hon, I hear you. It's sooooo tough to quiet that inner voice (and those "helpful people in our lives) that tell you you're fat and you'll always be that way so you might as well get used to it. Sometimes you just have to tell it to "Shut up!" 
I lost 45 lbs. but it took me over a year to do it! (My job as an event and wedding planner had me going to weddings and events and food tastings where it was literally MY JOB to eat.) Needless to say, since it took so long, it was easy to get discouraged but I realized that it was more than about losing the weight. It was about me changing a lifetime of habits and my relationship with food and that helped me.
Yes, I set mini goals - 10 lbs at a time - and I'd do something nice for myself (and for a change, these celebrations didn't involve food - LOL). And slowly people started to notice (even the negative ones who somehow managed to give backhanded compliments and who were "concerned" either about my "health" or that I'd put it back on) and even more slowly *I* started to notice.
Of course, that didn't happen overnight and while that makes it tough sometimes (although 8 lbs. in three weeks is VERY good so congrats), but you have to understand it's a learning process. We have to unlearn all of our eating habits and re-learn to eat food.
Why I gained the weight wasn't as important and why I wanted to lose the weight.
I didn't feel good about myself when I was heavy and that affected how I worked, how I interacted with people, how I talked to potential clients or avoided approaching them altogether, etc. and I didn't feel like "me" and I wanted "me" back.
So decide what your motivation is and the stronger it is, the more likely you are to want to drop the weight AND keep it off...no matter how long it takes because after all, we're changing our relationship with food FOR THE REST OF OUR LIVES so if it takes a few extra weeks (or months), it's okay because then you'll have more time to reinforce the good habits.
It's a process and it takes time but it can be done and YOU CAN DO IT! I have faith in you. Now PLEASE believe in yourself.
I lost 45 lbs. but it took me over a year to do it! (My job as an event and wedding planner had me going to weddings and events and food tastings where it was literally MY JOB to eat.) Needless to say, since it took so long, it was easy to get discouraged but I realized that it was more than about losing the weight. It was about me changing a lifetime of habits and my relationship with food and that helped me.
Yes, I set mini goals - 10 lbs at a time - and I'd do something nice for myself (and for a change, these celebrations didn't involve food - LOL). And slowly people started to notice (even the negative ones who somehow managed to give backhanded compliments and who were "concerned" either about my "health" or that I'd put it back on) and even more slowly *I* started to notice.
Of course, that didn't happen overnight and while that makes it tough sometimes (although 8 lbs. in three weeks is VERY good so congrats), but you have to understand it's a learning process. We have to unlearn all of our eating habits and re-learn to eat food.
Why I gained the weight wasn't as important and why I wanted to lose the weight.
I didn't feel good about myself when I was heavy and that affected how I worked, how I interacted with people, how I talked to potential clients or avoided approaching them altogether, etc. and I didn't feel like "me" and I wanted "me" back.
So decide what your motivation is and the stronger it is, the more likely you are to want to drop the weight AND keep it off...no matter how long it takes because after all, we're changing our relationship with food FOR THE REST OF OUR LIVES so if it takes a few extra weeks (or months), it's okay because then you'll have more time to reinforce the good habits.
It's a process and it takes time but it can be done and YOU CAN DO IT! I have faith in you. Now PLEASE believe in yourself.
Phyllis
Height: 5'2
SW - 177.6
Goal! - 132
Returning Weight - 143
CW - GOAL AGAIN!!!
Before JC with hubby and nephews in 2006/After JC (2nd time) in 2011
After JC 10/11
Height: 5'2
SW - 177.6
Goal! - 132
Returning Weight - 143
CW - GOAL AGAIN!!!
Before JC with hubby and nephews in 2006/After JC (2nd time) in 2011
After JC 10/11
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Posted 02 February 2012 - 03:17 PM
Oh my there are so many mini goals to celebrate!! If I had to wait before I reached my goal weight to celebrate I don't think I could last!
Here are just a few of my celebrations:
-having to move the seat car up because I am taking up less space
-of course dropping sizes - and getting rid of those fat clothes!
-being able to walk up the stairs without huffing and puffing
-I look at my weight loss in 10 pound increments - so much easier to handle it
-I celebrate when I pass on those unhealthy snacks and stick to plan.
-Celebrate when I increase my workout routine - still can't do a "real" push up, but I am close!
-My next big goal is to weigh less than my husband. Still have a bit of ways to reach that.
Here are just a few of my celebrations:
-having to move the seat car up because I am taking up less space
-of course dropping sizes - and getting rid of those fat clothes!
-being able to walk up the stairs without huffing and puffing
-I look at my weight loss in 10 pound increments - so much easier to handle it
-I celebrate when I pass on those unhealthy snacks and stick to plan.
-Celebrate when I increase my workout routine - still can't do a "real" push up, but I am close!
-My next big goal is to weigh less than my husband. Still have a bit of ways to reach that.
Nancy
Do or do not....there is no try
Pounds lost:
Month 1 - 6.5
Month 2 - 6.5
Month 3 - 5.5
Month 4 - 1.7 (on vacation for 2 weeks)
Month 5 - 3.3
Month 6 - 6.1
Month 7 -4.2
Month 8 -6.0
Month 9 - 5.2 and 24 inches lost so far
Month 10 - 3.2 (had a gain one week this month
Month 11 - 5.4
Do or do not....there is no try
Pounds lost:
Month 1 - 6.5
Month 2 - 6.5
Month 3 - 5.5
Month 4 - 1.7 (on vacation for 2 weeks)
Month 5 - 3.3
Month 6 - 6.1
Month 7 -4.2
Month 8 -6.0
Month 9 - 5.2 and 24 inches lost so far
Month 10 - 3.2 (had a gain one week this month
Month 11 - 5.4
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Posted 02 February 2012 - 05:55 PM
Oh I have heard those lil pesky voices before 
......when I first started jc, I also let those negative thoughts in briefly. I believe we allow them b/c we feel we deserve them b/c we have failed so many times before at dieting...so that is a coping mechanism of sorts, so just in case we dont meet our own expectations of ourselves, then we have those familar voices to lean on.....the ones that say "I told you so!" But you know what? I told them to stick a sock in it!!!! lol 
You just have to tell yourself you DO deserve this and you WILL succeed at every goal you set this time.......and celebrate EVERY milestone with a gift to yourself. You reached that goal, so be proud hun!!!!!
SO the next time you meet a goal, you strut your little hawt self over to that mirror, put one hand on your hip and with the other give it 3 snaps and a "Z"... .... then tell yourself how proud you are, how hard you worked and you are a beautiful person b/c you are FINALLY doing this girlfriend!!!!
Come here whenever you need a pep talk....you are PROMISED to leave with a positive outlook
......when I first started jc, I also let those negative thoughts in briefly. I believe we allow them b/c we feel we deserve them b/c we have failed so many times before at dieting...so that is a coping mechanism of sorts, so just in case we dont meet our own expectations of ourselves, then we have those familar voices to lean on.....the ones that say "I told you so!" But you know what? I told them to stick a sock in it!!!! lol You just have to tell yourself you DO deserve this and you WILL succeed at every goal you set this time.......and celebrate EVERY milestone with a gift to yourself. You reached that goal, so be proud hun!!!!!
SO the next time you meet a goal, you strut your little hawt self over to that mirror, put one hand on your hip and with the other give it 3 snaps and a "Z"...
.... then tell yourself how proud you are, how hard you worked and you are a beautiful person b/c you are FINALLY doing this girlfriend!!!!Come here whenever you need a pep talk....you are PROMISED to leave with a positive outlook
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Posted 02 February 2012 - 10:08 PM
Tell that inner voice to shut the f*** up!
But seriously, think of it this way... The majority of people give in to that inner voice and GIVE UP their diets when they hit the 3 week mark. You just said you are a little past 3 weeks, which means your chances of success are ALREADY amazingly, way better!!! Sure that inner voice can be hard to ignore, but in my book you are already winning that battle! You've got an amazing support group here on the forums, and just the fact that you came here to share your feelings has put you on the path to even more success. There's nothing wrong with reaching out for a little help, because help will ALWAYS be given here, and it will only make you stronger.
We all fight our own little mental demons, nobody ever said losing weight was easy. Maybe the trick for you IS to use that demon voice as a swift kick in the pants, just so you can prove it wrong! Stay positive always, tell yourself you are worth the effort, and realize that there is absolutely NO SHAME in celebrating little victories! Like I've seen it said here many times before, "You didn't put all that weight on in a day, it isn't going to come off in a day either." So what's the point in withholding celebrating and feeling good for the VERY END?? Don't you want to feel good on the whole journey!? You should, and you CAN, because every little victory leads to another, and they sure add up to make one big beautiful picture.
You've done amazing things in those first three weeks (8lbs! WOW!), just imagine what a difference in mind and body you'll feel after another 8lbs... and another 8lbs... Before you know it, you WILL be looking in the mirror and saying, "Wow, I actually AM changing the way I look!" Positive thoughts will go a long way in banishing that "inner voice." Believe in yourself! YOU CAN DO IT!
But seriously, think of it this way... The majority of people give in to that inner voice and GIVE UP their diets when they hit the 3 week mark. You just said you are a little past 3 weeks, which means your chances of success are ALREADY amazingly, way better!!! Sure that inner voice can be hard to ignore, but in my book you are already winning that battle! You've got an amazing support group here on the forums, and just the fact that you came here to share your feelings has put you on the path to even more success. There's nothing wrong with reaching out for a little help, because help will ALWAYS be given here, and it will only make you stronger.
We all fight our own little mental demons, nobody ever said losing weight was easy. Maybe the trick for you IS to use that demon voice as a swift kick in the pants, just so you can prove it wrong! Stay positive always, tell yourself you are worth the effort, and realize that there is absolutely NO SHAME in celebrating little victories! Like I've seen it said here many times before, "You didn't put all that weight on in a day, it isn't going to come off in a day either." So what's the point in withholding celebrating and feeling good for the VERY END?? Don't you want to feel good on the whole journey!? You should, and you CAN, because every little victory leads to another, and they sure add up to make one big beautiful picture.
You've done amazing things in those first three weeks (8lbs! WOW!), just imagine what a difference in mind and body you'll feel after another 8lbs... and another 8lbs... Before you know it, you WILL be looking in the mirror and saying, "Wow, I actually AM changing the way I look!" Positive thoughts will go a long way in banishing that "inner voice." Believe in yourself! YOU CAN DO IT!
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Posted 03 February 2012 - 05:35 AM
So sorry to hear that your inner voice is saying bad and discouraging things. Rather than trying to dismiss it why not Yell Back It with a powerful affirmation of who you are. Seriously you are worth more than the weight on the scale. You are strong and you are quite capable of reaching and maintaining your goal weight. Yes you can!! You've lost 8 lbs so far That is awesome!!! Go for it!! You will succeed.See what I mean just don't stand passive STRIKE BACK!!
Come back often to the boards we will give you encouragement.
Take heart! Stand Strong! Do the program!!
Jenny Craig does work for those who practice the program!!
Have a great Friday!!
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"It is not the mountains we conquer but ourselves"
I may be imperfect but I love and accept myself as I push towards my goal of good health!
Goal weight 125
wgt @ 09/29/11 131.2
wgt @ 10/22/11 130.5
wgt @ 11/26/11 131.3
wgt @ 12/17/11 131.2
wgt @ 01/07/12 132.3 New Year New Beginnings
wgt @ 02/04/12 132.2
wgt @ 03/17/12 131.9
wgt @ 04/06/12 129.5
wgt @ 04/16/12 129.4
wgt @ 05/05/12 132 Back to Basics
wgt @ 05/12/12 131.2
I can't control the outcome of the "game" but I can control how I work in preparation for the "game"
"It is not the mountains we conquer but ourselves"
I may be imperfect but I love and accept myself as I push towards my goal of good health!
Goal weight 125
wgt @ 09/29/11 131.2
wgt @ 10/22/11 130.5
wgt @ 11/26/11 131.3
wgt @ 12/17/11 131.2
wgt @ 01/07/12 132.3 New Year New Beginnings
wgt @ 02/04/12 132.2
wgt @ 03/17/12 131.9
wgt @ 04/06/12 129.5
wgt @ 04/16/12 129.4
wgt @ 05/05/12 132 Back to Basics
wgt @ 05/12/12 131.2
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Posted 03 February 2012 - 04:43 PM
Free of Concern, on 03 February 2012 - 05:35 AM, said:
So sorry to hear that your inner voice is saying bad and discouraging things. Rather than trying to dismiss it why not Yell Back It with a powerful affirmation of who you are. Seriously you are worth more than the weight on the scale. You are strong and you are quite capable of reaching and maintaining your goal weight. Yes you can!! You've lost 8 lbs so far That is awesome!!! Go for it!! You will succeed.See what I mean just don't stand passive STRIKE BACK!!
Come back often to the boards we will give you encouragement.
Take heart! Stand Strong! Do the program!!
Jenny Craig does work for those who practice the program!!
Have a great Friday!!
Great advice!
Susan
Height: 5'4"
SW - 220.4
Goal - 160
Returning Weight - 213
CW - 202
Height: 5'4"
SW - 220.4
Goal - 160
Returning Weight - 213
CW - 202
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Posted 05 February 2012 - 07:06 AM
Oh, thank you guys so much! It's wonderful advice and I am positively learning so much! I appreciate the forums and it does help to quiet that nasty voice! I have set some mini goals and I have an idea of celebrations too! I think just having my older son and daughter in this weekend has made me feel rejuvanated! And, I am staying on track with the program to a "T", so it's just diminishing bad thoughts and keeping positive ones that will come as I continue to lose this weight and gain self confidence!!!! Thanks again so much...........it helps!!!!
~~MICHELLE
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