I have been married for 3 years now. I was so excited to finally be married and spending time with my husband that I compltely stopped paying attention to what I was eating. I have gained almost 40 pounds in 3 years. I remember how I felt on my wedding day. I felt the happiest I have ever been with my body. After struggling nearly my whole life with my weight I actually remeber liking the way I looked. I don't even want to look in the mirror right now. I just feel uncomfortable. I just keep thinking about how I haven't even had a baby yet, and I know that it will only be harder to lose the weight after getting pregnant. I want to be healthy when I start a family. So I started Jenny in September and I was fairly successful. I lost about 7 pounds which felt great. Then came the holidays and some financial issues that kept me from ordering more food. Hello 7 pounds!! So again I am back on this roller coaster of failed attempts at losing weight. I can't count how many times this has happened in my life. I feel so discouraged because it seems like I can't find the will power anymore. The biggest challenge in my weight loss is the eating out. It is not so much the food that I miss but the social interaction. I know that it is time to take responsibility for myself. I have so many things coming up that I just want to feel good for. I am going to start completely over. Going to see my JC consultant tonight. I hope this time is successful. I need some encouragement!
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Started by ANJ1115, Jan 27 2012 09:08 AM
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Posted 27 January 2012 - 05:52 PM
Anj, thanks for writing and sharing. We've pretty much all been there. But here's the thing, most brides have a great motivation for losing weight and looking great. And then we get married and comfortable and well, you know the rest. But here's the thing, you just need to find another motivation that's as strong as what you had with your wedding and I think you have it.
You want to be healthy when you start a family and now is a great time to start. If you start building in healthy habits into your life now, you can keep them up and not gain all the extra weight many women do when they're "eating for two."
As far as socializing and going out, yes, when you're starting (or re-starting) the program, you should try to stay with the JC food as much as possible but that doesn't mean that you can't go out.
The problem with too many of us who struggle with weight is that we make the "socializing" as much about the food as it is about the people. You just might benefit from re-thinking your priorities when going out with friends.
What REALLY (at least for me) is the best thing about being out with friends is the FRIENDS!!! Yes, they are just as much fun and I have just as good a time when I eat healthy as I did when I was filling my face with all kinds of junk food and fatty stuff. So you can still go out and have fun with friends but stick to eating healthier foods.
For instance, if you're going out to dinner, you can have your JC meal (at least in the beginning) and when you're at the restaurant, have a salad or a veggie platter. Yes, it's hard when everyone is chomping on desserts or appetizers and such but you said it's not about the food that you miss it's about missing your friends. So if that's true, then it doesn't matter what you eat when you're with them, right?
The change of mindset doesn't happen overnight but if you work at it, it becomes second nature.
My hubby and I meet our friends for wings and fries (our fav restaurant when we get together) and then go to another place for dessert.
So while they're chomping on the fries and wings, I'll be munching on a salad and eating some of the celery sticks. And when we head to the dessert place, I have a JC snack with me and I'll order a FF beverage and pull out a JC brownie.
And at the end of the evening, I can focus on the laughs we had and not feel guilty about the food I consumed and then it's a REALLY good evening.
It just takes a little time and practice. You deserve this. You want this. And you CAN do this!
Please let us know how it's going.
You want to be healthy when you start a family and now is a great time to start. If you start building in healthy habits into your life now, you can keep them up and not gain all the extra weight many women do when they're "eating for two."
As far as socializing and going out, yes, when you're starting (or re-starting) the program, you should try to stay with the JC food as much as possible but that doesn't mean that you can't go out.
The problem with too many of us who struggle with weight is that we make the "socializing" as much about the food as it is about the people. You just might benefit from re-thinking your priorities when going out with friends.
What REALLY (at least for me) is the best thing about being out with friends is the FRIENDS!!! Yes, they are just as much fun and I have just as good a time when I eat healthy as I did when I was filling my face with all kinds of junk food and fatty stuff. So you can still go out and have fun with friends but stick to eating healthier foods.
For instance, if you're going out to dinner, you can have your JC meal (at least in the beginning) and when you're at the restaurant, have a salad or a veggie platter. Yes, it's hard when everyone is chomping on desserts or appetizers and such but you said it's not about the food that you miss it's about missing your friends. So if that's true, then it doesn't matter what you eat when you're with them, right?
The change of mindset doesn't happen overnight but if you work at it, it becomes second nature.
My hubby and I meet our friends for wings and fries (our fav restaurant when we get together) and then go to another place for dessert.
So while they're chomping on the fries and wings, I'll be munching on a salad and eating some of the celery sticks. And when we head to the dessert place, I have a JC snack with me and I'll order a FF beverage and pull out a JC brownie.
And at the end of the evening, I can focus on the laughs we had and not feel guilty about the food I consumed and then it's a REALLY good evening.
It just takes a little time and practice. You deserve this. You want this. And you CAN do this!
Please let us know how it's going.
Phyllis
Height: 5'2
SW - 177.6
Goal! - 132
Returning Weight - 143
CW - GOAL AGAIN!!!
Before JC with hubby and nephews in 2006/After JC (2nd time) in 2011
After JC 10/11
Height: 5'2
SW - 177.6
Goal! - 132
Returning Weight - 143
CW - GOAL AGAIN!!!
Before JC with hubby and nephews in 2006/After JC (2nd time) in 2011
After JC 10/11
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Posted 27 January 2012 - 06:36 PM
Anj, welcome back to Jenny. I'm hoping you had a good consultation with your JCC tonight and are ready to start this journey. Be sure to utilize all the tools Jenny provides and stick to the plan. I know social situations are difficult; I still struggle with them. Come to the forums often, post when you have a question, need support, or have tips or support for the rest of us. I found that the forum was instrumental in my weight loss and still is. Today is the day you decided to eat healthier for the rest of your life. Nothing in your past matters. Good luck to you.
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Posted 28 January 2012 - 04:05 AM
Husbands can result in a ton of baggage in more ways than one.
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2nd goal-150
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sw-195
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Posted 30 January 2012 - 08:15 AM
Thanks for the encouragement! It is great to hear other stories and advice. My consultation went great. We will see how it goes. I am feeling very positive right now. I am excited to be making the changes needed to have a healthy life. I have also started the couch to 5k workout, which is actually making me enjoy small doses of running. I hate to run, but this is actually enjoyable. I just need lots of prayer and determination. 
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