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[losingit!literally:)]

Hello everyone,
I started jenny a few weeks ago and it went well at first, I lost 2.5 lbs the first week. But a couple weeks ago, my brother left for the Marines, he is already a Marine Corps Officer but now that he has graduated college they took him away. It has been very hard for me because we were very close and I have found myself crying whenever I am alone. Being sad like this makes it hard for me to keep to a strict exercise plan and it's even hard getting out of bed some days. I started yoga last week at corepower to try to get back into things but then my boyfriend and I got in an argument and I don't know how much longer the relationship is going to last even though I love him very much. So for the past three days I have literally stayed in bed watching movies or just slept all day. I was hoping I could get some feedback that will help motivate me or inspire me in order to kickstart my life and get over this hurdle I am faced with right now. I am only 20 years old and I already feel that I can't make it through these tough times.
In high school I was at the peak of my abilities, I was fit and very hopeful. But now I am about 40 lbs over weight and I just can't picture myself getting back to that person I was before.
I hope to hear back from someone!

[I Called Jenny]

Oh, hon, I'm sorry you're going through such a hard time. I know it's difficult when you feel you've lost your entire support system but guess what - you've just found a whole new group of cheerleaders and we're only as far away as your keyboard.

As for your motivation, try to do it for you! Try to remember why you signed up to begin with and the stronger your motivation, the more likely you'll stay on the plan.

As for getting your body back, well, I'm in my 60s now and I lost 45 lbs. on JC and I'm only about five pounds from where I was in high school! So, yes, you stand a MUCH better chance of regaining the "old" you than I did. Your skin is still flexible and will bounce back more easily and once you start doing your exercises, you'll be amazed at how quickly your body will start rebounding.

As for the exercise, well use it to your advantage. Angry with your boyfriend? Work out your stress with exercise! Miss your brother? Well think about what you can tell him and the pictures you can send him while he's overseas so he can see the transformation.

It's too easy to pull the covers over your head and go into your cave but you deserve more than that!

You are GORGEOUS! And I suspect that whatever happens with your current boyfriend, once you get your head out of the sand and start showing off who you are inside and out, you're going to have great guys throwing themselves at your feet just for the honor of you tripping over them.

So come to the boards as much as possible. We're all here to support you and we want to know about your problems, your successes, your results and just want to get to know you better.

We're all here and we come in all shapes, sizes, ages and from all over the country and the world! We're all at different stages of the program and we have a whole bunch of newbies with several people start who also have loved ones who just are leaving to go overseas, so you're not as alone as you think you are.

So come join our "dysFUNctional JC family." You'll be so glad you did!

[Gigi'smom]

I was curious about how you are doing. When I read your entry, it brought back so many fears and memories of my son. He joined the Marines in 2000 with a four year commitment. When did his first 6 month routine deployment, I handled that without too much difficulty. His second deployment was just prior to the initial invasion into Iraq. Because he was part of an infantry unit, I knew he was going to be in harms way the entire time. At that time, communication home was confined to regular mail. My heart stopped a beat whenever a strange car pulled into my driveway.

I think the thing that helped me keep my sanity was signing up to do a marathon. My son loved to run and I used that as a way for me to stay connected with him. He was stationed at Camp Pendleton in California and the marathon was held the first week in June in San Diego. My hope was that he could meet me in San Diego for the marathon. Whenever I felt like quitting, I would think about what he was being asked to do, knowing saying "I don't want to do that" wasn't an option for him. I trained outside regardless of the weather knowing what he was doing was so much more difficult.

My son returned stateside four days before my marathon. He met me in San Diego, watched me cross the finish line and came home safely. I wrote him everyday, sent him a care package once a week. He didn't have the option of using the internet, but if your brother does, it really closes the distance.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your brother.

[jillarroo]

I think one way to find motivation is to think how proud of you your brother is going to be when he comes back and sees that you have met (or are close to meeting) your goal! I cannot imagine how hard that aspect of your life is but I do know that keeping your own routine will help.
As far as your other life stuff you sound slightly depressed, which makes it extremely hard to stick to diet and work out. It seems like a vicious circle and it is. You just have to fight through it!

Good luck and I hope you work through this!