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[Eane]

I'm not so much annoyed at losing weight, I've lost 28 lbs in less than 13 weeks. I'm annoyed when I tell people that I can only eat food the size of a Jenny Craig meal or the size of a kid's meal.

I'm not exaggerating. I get full super fast. Sometimes I do try to go a little longer between eating because someone wants me to have a bit of a potluck or something, but if I've already eaten, I'm stuffed to the brim.

It's just frustrating cause no one understands that YES my stomach has shrank A LOT.

Or I'll tell them that I can't have a certain food because it's too many calories for such a small portion and I have to eat more throughout the day before bed time.

What do you guys do when people seem to get PO'd cause you tell them you're stuffed on something as insignificant as a 4 pc Happy Meal, or on one taco? Or even after a small Jenny meal?

Because I swear people think I'm trying to be antisocial and that's not the case.

[I Called Jenny]

Stop worrying about what other people say or think. Many, MANY people just don't "get it."

Either they have never had a weight problem, they are already overweight, they're not used to you saying "no" to foods or a thousand other reasons.

You can tell them the truth, as you did, and if they don't listen, so be it.

You can tell them a white lie and say you're on medication and can't eat certain foods. Or you're going for a routine blood test and have to limit what you're eating. Or you can just ignore them.

Ultimately this is YOUR journey, not theirs. If they don't get it, that's their problem. It is NOT your problem.

You might have to be firm (Seriously, I'm not hungry but thank you). You can be funny (Are you trying to make me fat by shoving food in my face?). You can wave them off with an "excuse" (I'm taking some medication and I can't eat that.). You can make them feel guilty (You know I'm watching my weight so I don't understand why you can't be more supportive.).

Do whatever you think best. But, yes, we have likely ALL had to face those people but you just can't let them get to you. Come here and complain instead. We've been there and WE understand.

[Blessed4Life2]

LOL, I wouldnt tell a "straight up" lie .....b/c one lie leads to another, and then they will ask you if your having health problems blah blah blah.....and you will end having to wiggle out of that "straight up" lie

I would just be straight forward and tell them your tummy has shrunk and how glad you are of that.....then just nicely but bluntly say YOU DONT WANT IT, SO GET OUT OF YOUR FACE!!!!

[Blessed4Life2]

I have successfully blown them off by just making a funny out of it.

[reddyrawks]

I never had an issue with people getting upset with me if I didn't want to eat...but I guess there are people out there like that. I agree with Melissa, one lie leads to another I wouldn't go that route, they would for sure ask what is wrong. Just kindly tell them you are not hungry.

[Blessed4Life2]

reddyrawks, on 20 December 2011 - 02:44 PM, said:

I never had an issue with people getting upset with me if I didn't want to eat...but I guess there are people out there like that. I agree with Melissa, one lie leads to another I wouldn't go that route, they would for sure ask what is wrong. Just kindly tell them you are not hungry.

Come to think about it, I never really had that issue either, but I have read on here where quite a few ppl do. I would never try and get someone to eat if they didnt want it.

[I Called Jenny]

I'm Italian. People are ALWAYS trying to fatten you up and then are upset if you gain weight! The same thing with my Jewish neighbors who seem to think that I need more meat on my bones. It's sweet and I'm sure they mean well but usually I have to stop them with humor or sarcasm when they get overly insistent.

[dijarm]

Eane, I may have a different take on the matter than some of the others. Sometimes the people around you don't really take your dieting seriously. They think it's just a fad for you and almost try to sabotage your efforts because they don't think you can loose the weight and keep it off. If you've done dieting before they think you will just fail again and are waiting and watching. It's your job to show them they are wrong and stick to what you know is best for you. When people are food pushers just say "no thanks", period. Take the high road and show them your serious about your commitment to yourself!