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[WaltSentMe007]

I just joined Jenny Craig today because I felt like I needed a new support system. Although my new husband (we got married a month ago) is very supportive, he was already underweight before I lost 70lbs on my own and he ended up losing 20lbs himself. I really need to find a way for him to gain the weight he needs to while I lose weight. I also don't want to be tempted and he eats foods very high in calories and fat. It amazes me that he lost 20lbs actually. He eats McDonald's breakfast daily! Ah that's what we call "First World Problems" But to be healthy, we both need to be in a normal weight range. I wish we could switch places! He's actually at my goal weight, 130

[I Called Jenny]

WaltSentMe007, on 27 October 2011 - 08:28 AM, said:

I just joined Jenny Craig today because I felt like I needed a new support system. Although my new husband (we got married a month ago) is very supportive, he was already underweight before I lost 70lbs on my own and he ended up losing 20lbs himself. I really need to find a way for him to gain the weight he needs to while I lose weight. I also don't want to be tempted and he eats foods very high in calories and fat. It amazes me that he lost 20lbs actually. He eats McDonald's breakfast daily! Ah that's what we call "First World Problems" But to be healthy, we both need to be in a normal weight range. I wish we could switch places! He's actually at my goal weight, 130

Actually I've been there. When my husband and I got married, he had a 28" waist!

He was never a big sweets eater and today he's still very slim with a 32" waist.

I'm pretty sure the weight on him will come with time (just as it does with us) but you also need to be doubly strong if you want him to gain weight without you gaining any (and, in fact, are losing).

Does he eat treats? If so, let him bring in treats that he likes, but you don't. Then when he eats his fattening snack, you eat your JC snack, a piece of fruit, a yogurt, or something else that's "free" (meaning you can eat as much of it as you want and not gain - usually veggies).

If you can make him dinner that "compliments" yours but is of normal calories that will help too. For instance, let him eat a couple of slices of regular pizza and you have a JC pizza. Or if you're making chicken and pasta for him, you have chicken fettucine.

You be concerned with portions but he doesn't have to be.

I'm on maintenance so I make most meals that my hubby eats. I'll eat "normal" quantities and I'll fill up his plate. (He's not good at taking "seconds" himself but if I pre-fill his plate, he's usually pretty good about eating most of it.)

The trick for you to learn that I've found very helpful is to take your JC meal out of the container and put it on a normal plate. This does a couple of things for you. It helps you to feel less like you're eating "diet" food plus it also allows you to visually recognize what a "normal" portion is supposed to be so if you go out to dinner where they serve HUGE portions, you can ask for a "to go" box and then put everything in the box that isn't a "normal" portion (do this at the beginning of the meal so that if it's not on the plate you won't be tempted to overeat) and you can give him the "to go" box to bring to work for lunch or to eat at another time. And by seeing what normal portions are, when you cook for yourself or if you're eating at someone elses home, you'll know how much of what you can put on your plate.

And, finally, you have already shown REMARKABLE willpower by losing all that weight on your own before so you just have to make sure that you use that same strong trait to lose the weight you've gained back (and possibly more if you want) and not worry about what your hubby eats.

Unfortunately, men and women ARE different. They can eat more and not gain weight and they can drop weight with waaaay too much ease. I always say that if my husband skips lunch, he drops five pounds! Grrrrr It's also how I know G-d's a man!

Hang in there. We're all here for you!

Phyllis

[WaltSentMe007]

I Called Jenny, on 27 October 2011 - 09:23 AM, said:

Does he eat treats? If so, let him bring in treats that he likes, but you don't. Then when he eats his fattening snack, you eat your JC snack, a piece of fruit, a yogurt, or something else that's "free" (meaning you can eat as much of it as you want and not gain - usually veggies).

If you can make him dinner that "compliments" yours but is of normal calories that will help too. For instance, let him eat a couple of slices of regular pizza and you have a JC pizza. Or if you're making chicken and pasta for him, you have chicken fettucine.

You be concerned with portions but he doesn't have to be.

Thank you this is such good information! I recently started buying him Almond Joy and Mounds because I don't like coconut. That definitely helped. I'm sure I can find other foods too. I'm a relatively picky eater!