I'm struggling
#1
Posted 15 September 2011 - 05:17 AM
I finish my call with my JCC each Friday knowing what I need to do and by Sunday, I'm back to my unmotivated way of thinking! My breakfast and lunch are better again because I work in a school so I'm back to a structured meal schedule there. I eat my anytime bar in between. My weak times are my afternoon snack and dinner. Mostly that time between lunch and dinner. I am a binge eater, especially when it comes to emotions. I don't discipline myself to get past those times. I had 4 pop tarts one afternoon last week. I drove through McDonalds for a caramel sundae and orange drink on Monday this week. All things I have control over but don't take that control. I know in my mind all the things that I should and shouldn't be doing but I'm not doing anything about it.
My exercise routine is null. I am soooooo tired all the time. I know, I know. If I would exercise I would have more energy. Even in my best moments of establishing an exercise routine in my life, I never enjoy it. It's something I have to do, not something I want to do. That runners high I hear about it foreign to me. I've tried all different types of exercise and walking is what is best for me to establish a routine (I especially like Leslie Sansone's tapes). But I'm too tired/too lazy to do it. When I have established a routine, mornings work best. But right now I'm just too tired/lazy to get up. My kids are old enough now that when I get home from work I should exercise then if I'm not going to get up early to do so. But I'm too tired/lazy and just want to take a nap. See the trend?
I still have just less than 50 lbs to go. I can't even make it to 20. HELP! Any words of advice from those of you that have made it happen?
#2
Posted 15 September 2011 - 06:14 AM
Now, for the bad news...or the troublesome news. YOU are sabotaging YOURSELF and YOU are the only one who can figure out why.
You've given us lots of EXCUSES why (lazy, tired, binge-eater, etc.) but you haven't actually come up with a REASON why.
Binge eaters just tend to eat and eat and eat indiscriminately. They'll eat EVERYTHING (including "good" food) until they get sick. You seem to be selective in your "binges" and have purposely gone out of your way to eat things that are bad for you. In fact, you'll make a special trip!
So what's wrong? And don't just say stress because that's too general and it's something that each of us - on a diet or not - deal with on a daily basis.
Not to play armchair psychologist but just to give you some things to think about.
Do you think that you're not deserving to be healthy? I've heard women say that if they lost weight it would make friends...family...and/or spouses uncomfortable because they're also overweight or because "you're fine just the way you are, you don't need to lose weight." Do you have anybody like that in your life that's undermining your success?
Why did you join Jenny to begin with? You're spending a boatload of money and you're literally throwing it out the window. So if you have extra money to waste, hey, send it to me. I just heard that my husband who is a couple of years short of retirement is going to lose his job in the next four to eight months...maybe sooner...so we can use it.
Are you afraid that you'll attract more attention if you get thinner?
What is it? What's keeping you from doing what you KNOW you should be doing?
You know the plan works. You've lost 18 lbs. You only have 50 lbs. to go so you know that's not the problem.
Hey, I'm not much of an exerciser either but I'm still losing weight. I know that because I don't exercise as much as I should (and I love Leslie Sansone too) that I have to be ESPECIALLY diligent about what goes into my mouth.
Do I ever fall off track? Of course. I have a lot of lifetime habits that rear their ugly head now and again. But it's usually only a momentary slip and then I start right back on the plan.
You like to snack? Fine. Then snack on the healthier options. Have a yogurt. Eat some veggies. Heck, if you just had one of those 100 calorie snack packs instead of four pop tarts you'd be in better shape than you are now.
What did you use besides willpower to help you lose the 18 lbs?
Make up signs for yourself about why you want to lose weight. Distract yourself from eating. Set up a timer for 30 minutes and then start doing something productive or that will occupy your mind (read a book, clean a drawer, call a friend, come to the boards and rant or read about other people's challenges or victories, etc.). Then when the timer goes off, if the urge hasn't passed, THINK really THINK about whether or not it's worth eating something that you shouldn't eat. Think about the consequences (no weight loss, guilt, disappointment, etc.) if you do consume something off the plan.
Sometimes people say it's best for them to journal so they can see a pattern about their food consumption or what's going on in their life that makes them want to eat off plan.
You say your worse time is between lunch and dinner. So plan your snacks for then. Eat sugar-free jello with some fat free topping. Have a yogurt - regular or frozen. Munch on some veggies. Eat your fruit then. Drink, drink, drink so that you're so full that you don't feel as if you can eat something.
Need a "treat"? Try Canfields Diet Chocolate Fudge. I put it into a REALLY tall glass with a splash of milk and it tastes like a chocolate soda without the ice cream. It's creamy and foamy and it tastes like it should be fattening but it's not.
Decide what works better for you - punishment or reward. For instance, if you go off track, come up with a punishment (like you would with your children if they didn't do their homework or a chore) that you impose on yourself (you can't see a favorite TV program, you can't buy something you want, you have to spend 30 minutes exercising, etc.). On the other hand, if you stick to the plan, reward yourself...with something other than food (go to a movie, get a mani-pedi, buy yourself something fun and small, etc.).
I'm sure you'll get a bunch of other ideas but you're not the only one who is going through this. And while we can all offer suggestions and support, YOU are the only one who can decide why you're doing so much damage to yourself and treating yourself so badly.
You have to try. And each time you get through a rough spot without eating off plan, you will find that it will be easier the next time.
Let us know how it's going. We're all here for you and you are not going through this process alone but you're falling behind on this journey and we want you at the front of the pack with the rest of us.
Please keep in touch and let us know how it's going.
I believe you can do it. In fact, with an 18 lb. loss, I KNOW you can do it. So PLEASE be nicer to yourself and just do it!
Phyllis
Height: 5'2
SW - 177.6
Goal! - 132
Returning Weight - 143
CW - GOAL AGAIN!!!

Before JC with hubby and nephews in 2006/After JC (2nd time) in 2011

After JC 10/11
#3
Posted 15 September 2011 - 07:35 AM
I've been at a similar plateau which I finally broke last week. For me, I think I was more just getting bored with the routine... And I started having wine in the evenings more than I should... But we just need to regroup, refocus and remember why we're here!
As far as being too tired to exercise, maybe try drinking a 5 Hour Energy or a Sugarfree Red Bull or a cup of coffee before your workout time. A little caffeine might help you get over that tiredness at first, until you start getting more energy from your routine and start looking forward to it.
Giving yourself a concrete goal might help. I signed up for a 5K in December and I'm going to try to actually run the whole thing. We'll see... But if running a 5K seems out of reach, walking a 5K probably isn't. And almost all the charity 5K's are run/walks.
Anyhoo, good luck! You can do it!
And Phyllis-- great post! Those are great things we need to ask ourselves. Thanks!
#4
Posted 15 September 2011 - 02:17 PM
#5
Posted 15 September 2011 - 02:20 PM
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Annie, do you live with a photographer? Great shots! And, wow, what a difference! Keep up the FANTASTIC work!
Phyllis
Height: 5'2
SW - 177.6
Goal! - 132
Returning Weight - 143
CW - GOAL AGAIN!!!

Before JC with hubby and nephews in 2006/After JC (2nd time) in 2011

After JC 10/11
#6
Posted 16 September 2011 - 08:18 AM
Annie, do you live with a photographer? Great shots! And, wow, what a difference! Keep up the FANTASTIC work!
Ha ha! Thanks Phyllis! I just upload a photo to photobucket and play with the settings. I like the 'retro' tool. (and I use the 'wrinkle smoother' on my undereyes-- but shhh... don't tell anyone!)
#7
Posted 16 September 2011 - 08:25 AM
Ha ha! Thanks Phyllis! I just upload a photo to photobucket and play with the settings. I like the 'retro' tool. (and I use the 'wrinkle smoother' on my undereyes-- but shhh... don't tell anyone!)
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Do they have a turkey neck remover?????
Your living is determined not so much by what life brings to you as by the
attitude you bring to life; not so much by what happens to you as by the way
your mind looks at what happens. - John Homer Miller


#8
Posted 16 September 2011 - 08:51 AM
Congrats on the 18 pounds! That is awesome! It seems you are doing an at home JC plan. Have you thought about doing in center? Sometimes going in and having the in person task of being weighed can be motivational. Also, I know some of the consultants are awesome. Personally, my JCC is great. She is so sincerely happy for me and proud of me when I lose even 2 ounces. Yet, when I have a little gain, she doesn't put me down. She asks why, and we deal with what happened.
As for binge eating, try keeping some peapods, snap peas, green/yellow/red peppers in your possesion. If you binge, binge on some veggies. Or when you have the urge, drink a glass of water. Sit there, take 5 deep breaths, call a friend, take a walk.
Also, do you have anyone around you that supports your JC journey? I think if I didn't have a supportive group around me, I'd probably fail. That is another thing actually going into the center is good for me for. The other consultants I see in passing every week are always so great, telling me how good I look like I'm doing. Maybe you need some moral support! Which, this forum is great for, because there are alot of great girls on here (and guys) that have done it and have great advice always (see the above comments for an example!)
And if you don't think any of what I said would change anything, let's look at the money aspect of it. Let's be honest, JC is NOT cheap! I think everyone would agree on that. Not only are you hindering your weight loss and sabotaging your health, you are hurting your wallet I'm sure by not following plan.
I know it sounds lame, but at the end of the day, if you feel good, you'll look and if you look good, you'll feel good. You deserve to be happy and healthy, and you have the potential to do so. It's your life, and only you have the power to make it great!
Best of wishes to you on your journey!
#9
Posted 16 September 2011 - 10:39 AM
Ha ha! Thanks Phyllis! I just upload a photo to photobucket and play with the settings. I like the 'retro' tool. (and I use the 'wrinkle smoother' on my undereyes-- but shhh... don't tell anyone!)
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Yes, but who is taking your pictures? I mean the lighting is great, you have a good background, your makeup is perfect for photos (usually "street" makeup doesn't translate well in photos). It really looks like studio photography - even with "Photoshop" tools!
And, yes, is there some sort of turkey neck eraser? I'm with CMECRZN on that one!
Nora Ephron wrote a book called "I Feel Bad About My Neck" and I can TOTALLY relate to that! LOL
Phyllis
Height: 5'2
SW - 177.6
Goal! - 132
Returning Weight - 143
CW - GOAL AGAIN!!!

Before JC with hubby and nephews in 2006/After JC (2nd time) in 2011

After JC 10/11
#10
Posted 16 September 2011 - 11:10 AM
Right now I am doing well most of the time. But yesterday, I learned that my Mom was refused by Medicaid to be allowed to stay in a nursing home as her health has improved too much but not enough for her to come home and be independent. None of us (in the immediate family) can stay at home with her and we were scrambling to figure out a plan as we were going to have to move her.
WELL, you can imagine, those of you that have emotional binges, I wanted to eat comfort food after I heard this info. I was alright at work but once I got home, I kept checking the refrig and cabinets. Just opening the doors and looking. Finally I got online and read this topic. I kept setting my kitchin timer and trying to last 30 minutes at a time. I did some walking squats and other exercises and finally went to bed early. Was it a struggle? Yes, more than skinny people can ever realize. Will it work next time? I don't know but my JCC and I talked the other evening and she reminded me that the more I exercise my "muscle" (my word, not hers), the more it becomes a habit.
I think the others have some good ideas/advice and I plan on printing out this topic to hang on my refrig.
Weeks 1-3__(-15_lbs) Starting at 232_(08/21/2011) __Week 22____(-1__lbs) Still looking for 180!
Week 4_____(-3__lbs)__________________________Week 23____(-1__lbs) Turned into a inchworm
Week 5_____(-3__lbs)_1/4 Goal reached (9/25/11) __Week 23___Reached 180!, headed to 170 lbs.
Week 6_____(0___lbs) TOM!____________________Week 24____(+1__lbs) UGHHHH!
Week 7_____(-5__lbs)__________________________Week 25____(-4___lbs) Confused but happy!
Week 8_____(-2__lbs)__________________________Week 26____(-2___lbs) Wow,how did I do that!?!
Week 9_____(-4__lbs)__________________________Week 27____(-1___lbs) Back to Inchworm!
Week 10_____(-2__lbs) Onederland!_______________Week 28____(-3___lbs) Lots of Aerobics!
Week 11_____(-2__lbs)_________________________Week 29_____(0___lbs) What!!!
Week 12_____(-2__lbs)_________________________Week 30_____(-1___lbs)3/4 GOAL hit! (3/18/2012)
Week 13_____(-1__lbs)_________________________Week 31_____(-3___lbs) (Doc changed goal 160)
Week 14_____(-3__lbs) HALFWAY! 11/27/2011_____Week 32_____(+1__lbs) Sick, bloated, oh well.
Week 15_____(-1__lbs)_________________________Didn't change the tickers.....
Week 16_____(-1__lbs)__________________________Week 33_____(-2__lbs) Down to 166, 6 lbs away
Week 17_____(-1__lbs) Looking for 185_____________Week 34_____(0___lbs) Yikes
Week 18_____(_0__lbs)__________________________Week 35_____(0__lbs) OMG
Week 19_____(-2__lbs) Reached short term goal______Week 36_____(-1__lbs) Finally, hit mini-goal
Week 20_____(-1__lbs)__________________________Week 37_____(0__lbs)
Week 21_____(-2__lbs) Down 50 pounds!____________Week 38_____(0__lbs)
_____________________________________________Week 39_____(-1__lbs) FINALLY! 05/20/2012
START Measurements_______________________NOW (4/29/2012)
Bust - 41.5"_________________________________Bust - 36.5"
Waist - 37.5"________________________________Waist - 27"
Abdomen - 41"______________________________Abdomen - 34"
Hips - 47.5"_________________________________Hips - 37"
Physical 03/29/2012 : Cholesterol - 140, Trig.- 74, LDL - 79, HDL - 49
Total Weight Loss
#11
Posted 16 September 2011 - 11:41 AM
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Thanks Phyllis! That makes me feel really good. :-)
The first photo was a picture a friend posted on Facebook and was real motivation for me to join Jenny. I was standing next to another friend who was five months pregnant, and honestly, I looked more pregnant than she did... I took the second photo myself with my Android phone while at my desk at work by just holding in out the phone in front of me. The third photo my co-worker took in my office. We turned the flash off and we up-light me a bit with a standard desk lamp so I didn't have weird shadows on my face. We took about fifteen shots with my Cannon PowerShot and I changed my head position/smile a little each time and I just chose the best one. As far as makeup goes, that's just how I do my makeup... I design jewelry for a high-end jewelry store, so I have to look pretty dressy if I have to go out and talk to a client...
I don't know much about photography, but I think a big key is turning off the flash and lighting yourself (or whoever you're taking a picture of) with other lights. The flash makes the face look too flat.
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