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[cferr472]

When I started Jenny Craig about a little more than a year ago, and I worked very hard and came from 220 lbs, to my lowest 149 lbs.
I am only 21 years old and I have always been overweight.
About 4 months ago, I had a very rough breakup with a boyfriend and I looked to food to comfort.
Today was the first day I was willing to walk back into my local Jenny Craig again.
I stepped on the scale to see the numbers "203.6" staring back at me.
I feel so discouraged and upset with myself. I feel like all my hard work has been undone in a matter of months.
I don't know if anyone has had this happen to them but I just feel like a failure.

[decemberNEO]

First of all, you are back! First step and already on the right track. At this point you have to be happy that you are starting back at 203 and not 220. So really, you did make progress. Weight loss is a lifelong journey. We all have so much to learn about losing it and most importantly keeping it off. Welcome back = ]

[duckieq1967]

first, congratulations on taking the first step and coming back to program. look at this as a life lesson. you are an emotional eater, the bad news is you will probably always be one, but the good news is..you don't have to respond the same way you always have in the past. talk to you jjcc about coping mechanisms for the future. take control of your life..don't give an ex-boyfriend the power to make you unhappy with yourself! remember how good you felt when you were losing and focus on that postove feeling. start setting mini goals and have realistic expectations. every pound down, every inch lost, every postive descion mwans you are gaining control. best of luck..you can do this

[KylieH]

You have made the first step to come back, and with experience in this, the hardest part is walking through those doors and getting on that scale to stare reality in the face!!! youve done that and it is all down hill from here!! I know how hard it is to have a bad breakup and i also know how hard it is to look to food for comfort, look elsewhere.. try exercise to get your frustrations and emtions out! Stick to plan and be strong... remember the best revenge is looking absolutely amazing!!

[CMECRZN]

Try out boxing!!! Then when you are punching that bag, you can imagine your ex's face.... BAM BAM BAM!!!! Whew that will feel much better than food can ever taste!!!

[I Called Jenny]

Whoo-hooo! Congrats for having the strength to come back. If you can do that, you can do ANYTHING!

Sorry about the BF problems (I personally like the punching bag idea - LOL) but as was said, DO NOT let ANYONE have that sort of power over you. YOU have the power. YOU take the power back! And you already have by returning.

Has anyone else ever lost and weight and regained it? Hello! There's a whole section of the boards for us "returnees."

Look, we all have fallen off the wagon before. I returned recently and fortunately, I returned when the scale was heading to the 10 lb. mark. Next time, IF THERE IS A NEXT TIME, don't wait. Run...do not walk...back to JC! There's no shame in it.

And here's another thing that's great this time over the last time. You KNOW it works. The first time you came to JC you probably weren't sure it worked. But this time, you KNOW you can do it. You've already done it. So, yes, it sucks but this time you'll be smarter and stronger.

But, hon, this time you HAVE to learn what to do when something in your life goes wrong. You can't turn to food for comfort. That type of food is not comfort - it's the enemy. Food was meant as fuel and not as something to make us feel better.

Yes, that's a REALLY hard lesson for most of us to learn but if you want to build a new life for yourself and not repeat the problems of the past, you have to learn to have a new relationship with food - this time one that is healthy and works. Kind of like what you'd like to find in a new boyfriend.

If you have stress (and who doesn't have it drop on us in one form or another too often), then find a way to deal with it that doesn't involve stuffing your face.

Start exercising. Join a club that interests you. Take a class on something you like. Start a hobby. Write a blog or a journal (several of the girls do that and it helps them). Come to the boards and dump on us (it's very cathartic and a lot less fattening). And we're all here for you because we're all on the same journey at some point or another that you're on. We're either walking alongside you or we're already out front clearing the path for you.

The point is - step away from the fridge! It's not your friend. You have to have a friendly alliance with it but you're not supposed to have an "intimate" relationship with it.

OK, you WILL succeed! You've taken that first step and we're all here to cheer you on. You go, girl! You're going to look SPECTACULAR and more importantly FEEL spectacular in no time. You have youth on your side (plus skin that's going to bounce back quicker than it will for us more "mature" ladies - LOL).

Stay in touch!

Phyllis

[mollz23]

cferr472, on 20 July 2011 - 07:18 PM, said:

When I started Jenny Craig about a little more than a year ago, and I worked very hard and came from 220 lbs, to my lowest 149 lbs.
I am only 21 years old and I have always been overweight.
About 4 months ago, I had a very rough breakup with a boyfriend and I looked to food to comfort.
Today was the first day I was willing to walk back into my local Jenny Craig again.
I stepped on the scale to see the numbers "203.6" staring back at me.
I feel so discouraged and upset with myself. I feel like all my hard work has been undone in a matter of months.
I don't know if anyone has had this happen to them but I just feel like a failure.

Welcome back to JC and I am so sorry about your weight gain. I definitely understand emotional eating. Been there, done that! I was down to my ideal weight of 140 in high school after I did weight watchers for awhile, and then I got seriously depressed, turned to food for comfort, and you know the rest. I am 23 now and was at my highest weight of 253. In addition to comfort eating, all the medicine I had to take was making me gain weight and also made it hard to lose, which made me more depressed, blah blah. It is a vicious circle. I just started about 4 weeks ago and I have lost about 8 pounds. I am happy for you that you made the commitment to lose that weight again, and you were soo brave to step back on that scale! That, for me, is one of the hardest parts!

Good luck! You should be proud of yourself!

[monie406]

That happened to me too! I gained 10lbs after losing 20lbs after my frist 3 months on the program. I had a bad break-up and I am an emotional eater as well. I have a JC appointment this week and already know what's in store. I pretty much know what's going to go down. I also feel discouraged, but just hang in there and we can be eachother's support. Even though my situation is smaller, I definitely know how you feel.

[GlennaVictoria]

i'm new to the program, but have been struggling with weight loss my whole life.

Nobody should ever feel alone... Beautybyglenna@gmail.com feel free if you need anything!
xox

[harris241]

I just turned 27 years old on November 14th and my ex bf who always talked to me about our future was I found out talking to new women... I myself feel.very alone and discouraged but have turned more to religion to help me get through after he broke up with me I went from 180 lbs which was still heavy up to 222. Lbs. I just rejoined Jenny After 3 years of being single and weigh 217 after my 2nd week. After this weight is gone along with the weight of emotional baggage I think I wil finally be ready to move on to someone who may treat me better... I was constantly made to feel bad about myself because he felt embarrased to be with me whille all his friends were dating skinny girls with long hair.....he would even flirt with them in front of me, this All happened while i was losing a loved one in a nursing home and grieving over many losses.... People can be very cruel but god will be the judge of his actions, i will leave it up to him to make his own mistakes....Good luck and please know that you are not alone.my thoughts are with you

[I Called Jenny]

harris241, on 28 November 2011 - 06:29 PM, said:

I just turned 27 years old on November 14th and my ex bf who always talked to me about our future was I found out talking to new women... I myself feel.very alone and discouraged but have turned more to religion to help me get through after he broke up with me I went from 180 lbs which was still heavy up to 222. Lbs. I just rejoined Jenny After 3 years of being single and weigh 217 after my 2nd week. After this weight is gone along with the weight of emotional baggage I think I wil finally be ready to move on to someone who may treat me better... I was constantly made to feel bad about myself because he felt embarrased to be with me whille all his friends were dating skinny girls with long hair.....he would even flirt with them in front of me, this All happened while i was losing a loved one in a nursing home and grieving over many losses.... People can be very cruel but god will be the judge of his actions, i will leave it up to him to make his own mistakes....Good luck and please know that you are not alone.my thoughts are with you

Harris, so sorry that you had such a dolt for a BF for too long.

I'm sure he had his own "deficiencies" and shouldn't have held your weight against you. Why? Was he perfect? Obviously not if he was so shallow to try to make you feel bad about yourself because you didn't have a "perfect" figure or long hair. Really? Geez, what a jerk!

The best thing he ever did was break up with you. Remember, every time a door closes a window opens and now he's left you free to find a MUCH better man.

When I gained my weight I doubt that my husband was thrilled by it but to give him TONS of credit, he never said a word UNTIL I lost the weight and even then it was more about him worrying about my health rather than my appearance. Now THAT is the type of man you should be sharing your time with.

I'm glad you found comfort in religion and since God works in mysterious and wonderful ways, maybe that's how you got to Jenny and to us. We'll be here to provide you the support you need and any help we can provide.

We're ALL here for you! Just let us know what we can do.

Come to the boards often, share in discussions, ask questions, let us cheer you on for your victories (nice loss so far - ) and feel free to "vent" whenever you need to. We all do it and it's very therapeutic.

Hang in there. You'll get to your goal and a new way of life (with food and with people/men) all in good time.

{{{{hugs}}}}
Phyllis