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[Meggiep]

It is going to be a rough day! I am having one of those days when I can't help it but feel sorry for myself. Yesterday, I had my gallbaldder removed and am feeling horrible, not to mention, lazy because I cannot get off the couch. So following my surgery, my sister, who didn't even bother to come see me, called to tell me she is getting married in Vegas on Sunday, for the second time. I know this sounds stupid, but she is getting married for the second time before I can even marry once. I am a professional, smart, funny woman, and most people would say I am a good catch, however, I cannot seem to keep a man! I know that my weight and my low self-esteem have played a part in my relationships, but what am I doing wrong. I have everything I want in my life, but am missing the family piece. I am ready to settle down and start a family, but it just isn't happening for me! WHAT'S WRONG WITH ME?

I am also really struggling with decisions I need to make about my friends! Not one of them showed up yesterday either before or after my surgery, and only one bothered to text me. I am the kind of person who treats people the way I want to be treated. If it were any of them in this situation, they would have had flowers, soup, phone calls, support, you name it! I am tired of one sided friendships!!! What do I do about my flakey friends?

Sorry this is so off topic, but I needed to vent. I hate being so negative today, but I am just feeling so overwhelmed with sadness right now!!

Meg

[gekko.318]

I am so sorry you are having such a rough day! If I lived closer (I have no idea where you are) I would absolutely bring you something suitable for a post surgical snack!! I also think it sucks that your friends flaked, but given your emotional state today, I would wait before doing anything. Hopefully they will come through for you, at the very least with an apology for flaking on your when you needed it.

Take a nap, indulge yourself, and really, feeling lazy because you can't move after surgery??? Enjoy it!! Enjoy the break and you will be back at it in no time at all!

Feel better!!

[JWinATL]

Meggiep: I had an appendectomy back in January of 2010, which is a similar procedure to the gallbladder (I am assuming you had laproscopy), and the only one who came to see me was my dogsitter/friend who was taking me home. I was only in the hospital for 24 hours. I also had MAJOR by-pass surgery and was in the hospital for 5 days, and only two people came to see me (besides my team of doctors). My point is that people don't do hospitals like they used to. For one thing, visiting hours are all over the place; for another, hospital stays are generally a lot shorter than they used to be, shortening the opportunities for our friends to visit. Imagine having a life altering surgery like I had with NOT ONE FAMILY MEMBER here to be with me or visit when I was in ICU. Outside of the fact that my family blows as far as a family is concerned, I didn't take offense. I have tons of friends, most of whom visited me at home where we were BOTH more comfortable.

As for you versus your sister - it has nothing to do with your ability to attract a man. You probably have high standards (not saying your sister doesn't!), and it is difficult to find a good man anymore. I know - I had a real jerk the first go around, and lost the love of my life in 2008. The Bear was the personification of a gentleman and a true treasure (ergo the nickname, The Bear). You are NOT DEFINED by a man! You know who you are. You are making yourself the best YOU that you can. We are all here cheering you on!!! YAY MEGGIE!

LOVE, JILL