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[Jstar00000]

My name is Jen (Short for my real name)..I just turned 16 in March and for the past few weeks ive been crying everyday because of my low self esteem and my friendship problems and i tend to eat when i'm upset...I been so overly stresses with school going to bed at 2:00 everyday because of the homework load. I never have time for exercising. I amitt I lied to my jC councilor i didn't tell her about any of this cuz its to shameful. With in all this I gain 3 pounds making me even more upset. I don't know what to do I need help

I used to be 170 then I went to 152 and then now i'm 155 but I think i gained again
I don't feel skinny anymore like I did 2 weeks ago
what if I gained what I lost
I'm scared

[hopeisthekey]

Hello,
I just thought I'd take a browse online here to see if there were any interesting topics and I stumbled across yours. I feel like I can totally relate to you. I have been on JC for almost 4 months and I've had a slow but successful progression. I am 20 years old so I totally understand what you are talking about with the balancing of school work and exercising. I often feel like a failure when I can't get in the exercise I planned to get in, or cave to a temptation just because of stress.
I find from personal experience it's so hard not to get down on yourself when things like this happen, but it's best to take one day at a time. If you have a horrible day where you feel like you've gotten off track then remember tomorrow is DEFINITELY a new day. Start fresh and forget about what you did or didn't do yesterday. It sounds like you've made awesome progress so far and you never want to give that up. We all get in ruts it's just finding a way out that's tricky.
I would recommend telling your JC consultant about how you're feeling. I know it's sometimes hard to explain everything, but sometimes I force myself because they have great advice. I also find if I need motivation this website is full of great stories and people.
As for exercise and school work, I am in university so I understand. It's almost sometimes like you need to pick what's more important that day: school work or exercising. Lately, with exams etc I've been struggling but I find when normally I would be taking breaks to snack, socialize etc I get a roommate or family member to go on a alk with me. I know this doesn't seem like a lot but it has a dual purpose because it clears my mind completely and I get back at the schoolwork feeling less stressed and more motivated to finish. I also try to get exercise (like going to the gym) done and out of the way first thing in the morning. Even if that means getting up a bit earlier. You feel so successful and you don't have to think about it for the rest of the day.

I hope some of this helps, and don't feel down. I think your accomplishments are amazing. It's motivating for me to know that people my age are having the same difficulties.

Never give up hope and never stop smiling.