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[annabanana49]

Now, I knew one day this would happen...and to my surprise I wasn't as horrified as I thought it was going to be!!

Let me paint the scene for you. This morning after a staff meeting I had a co-worker come up to me and touch my stomach and say, "Are you pregnant?!?" with a huge grin on her face..I'm not sure if she was loopy from her back pain medicine or didn't have her caffiene yet but WOWZA! Who does that??

I laughed and kindly replied, "No, that is just my belly you are touching!" I've been wearing dresses since the weather has been so hot lately and of all the days I didn't put on my spanx someone has to make a prego comment.

Needless to say her face turned red and she was horrified and apologize perfusely but I have to ask again.."Who does that?" At least wait until I walk away and ask another co-worker! Sheesh...

But to my surprise I wasn't as mortified as I thought I would be. I was actually laughing at it. I didn't kick, scream, or cry...because deep down I knew I was doing something about it by being on JC! Now I have more motivation to do it. I have a long way to go but I'll get to that 125lb mark and then we'll see who's looking pregnant then!

But note to myself: You better bet your butt I'll never forget to wear my spanx again! Ha ha...

Thought you'd all enjoy a funny story..have a great day!
~Anna

[sasue]

Hi Anna, good for you! Your thinking in the right mindset.

I was mistaken for being pregnant in my early twenties. I thought I was going to die. I was wearing one of those old Espirit dresses with a very low waist (look good on really skinny people).

I just said no, and did the direct opposite of what you did... I ended up pregnant shortly thereafter anyways, like within a couple of weeks.

From that moment on, I vowed to never ever, ask another woman if she was pregnant, even if she really looked it!

Great thinking, you're on the right track! Try Solidea instead of Spanx, they massage you and work on the lymph system reducing cellulite. I love em.

Have a blessed day, Sam.

[Blessed4Life2]

Now, I knew one day this would happen...and to my surprise I wasn't as horrified as I thought it was going to be!!

Let me paint the scene for you. This morning after a staff meeting I had a co-worker come up to me and touch my stomach and say, "Are you pregnant?!?" with a huge grin on her face..I'm not sure if she was loopy from her back pain medicine or didn't have her caffiene yet but WOWZA! Who does that??

I laughed and kindly replied, "No, that is just my belly you are touching!" I've been wearing dresses since the weather has been so hot lately and of all the days I didn't put on my spanx someone has to make a prego comment.

Needless to say her face turned red and she was horrified and apologize perfusely but I have to ask again.."Who does that?" At least wait until I walk away and ask another co-worker! Sheesh...

But to my surprise I wasn't as mortified as I thought I would be. I was actually laughing at it. I didn't kick, scream, or cry...because deep down I knew I was doing something about it by being on JC! Now I have more motivation to do it. I have a long way to go but I'll get to that 125lb mark and then we'll see who's looking pregnant then!

But note to myself: You better bet your butt I'll never forget to wear my spanx again! Ha ha...

Thought you'd all enjoy a funny story..have a great day!
~Anna



Wow Anna....I'm like you.....who in the heck ask such a thing?!

I would never have the nerve for fear of exactly what happened to you. I have never had that happen, but if I did I would think I would react the same way you did. Whenever family members or my ole grouchy grandma would make snide comments about me gaining weight it never would crush me...cuz I knew they were right, gosh all I have to do is take a look in the mirror. But you definately have a great atitude about it.....yayyyy for you girl!

[Sulynn]

I have had strangers ask me when I was due on more than one occassion. I chalked it up to the clothes I was wearing and discarded that item quickly. I was even at my lowest weight I've been over the last 12 years when that comment was made.

I did look in the mirror and stand sideways in that dress and realized... yes I look pregnant. I have a large chest and anything with an empire waist makes me look preggo. I have a tendency to slouch as well and that makes it even worse.

Oh well, can't shoot the messenger. Best to work on my posture and losing this gut.

Sue

[RedSpice]

This definitely has happened to me. I was working at a retail store and was wearing on of my favorite empire waist dresses (lets be honest, most of us bigger ladies own them) and a wholesaler came into the store. He looked at me and asked me if I was "with child". I was beyond mortified. I laughed on the outside, but was crying on the inside. To this day, every morning I look in the mirror and evaluate if my outfit looks like maternity wear. I don't want to be in that situation ever again.

[Blushblueholly]

AUGH! Definitely know how this feels. I got asked this one day when I was actually subbing at a bank that I didn't usually work at, so I wasn't super comfortable in the first place..... and then one of the first customers asked me "when's the baby due?!" and... in shock... I just said "um..... there's no baby" and she just walked away. hahaha. One of THE most awkward moments of my whole life! Gross! hahahaha.

[ChubbyCheex]

I've been asked if I was pregnant 3 times. I'm really getting sick of it!
The first time was right after I had lost a lot of weight. It turns out that the only place on m body that was still fat was my tummy, and I was wearing an empire waist dress. I was in the Bahamas and the tour guide congratulated me on the baby. I was really upset since I had lost all that weight and it almost ruined my day until a bunch of local women went to tell him off
The other time was on a metro, the woman gave me her seat. And I took it. I figured, if I'll be insulted I should at least have the perk of sitting?
The third time, a man asked when I was due. I told him I wasn't pregnant and he seemed embarrassed, but then he said that my belly wasn't that big and maybe I just seemed pregnant because I walk like a pregnant woman. Which might actually be worse than having a big belly...but anyways.

I feel ya!

[Blessed4Life2]

I've been asked if I was pregnant 3 times. I'm really getting sick of it!
The first time was right after I had lost a lot of weight. It turns out that the only place on m body that was still fat was my tummy, and I was wearing an empire waist dress. I was in the Bahamas and the tour guide congratulated me on the baby. I was really upset since I had lost all that weight and it almost ruined my day until a bunch of local women went to tell him off
The other time was on a metro, the woman gave me her seat. And I took it. I figured, if I'll be insulted I should at least have the perk of sitting?
The third time, a man asked when I was due. I told him I wasn't pregnant and he seemed embarrassed, but then he said that my belly wasn't that big and maybe I just seemed pregnant because I walk like a pregnant woman. Which might actually be worse than having a big belly...but anyways.

I feel ya!

Oh wow, I bet you were hurt after losing weight and then have some numb skull ask that.....sheesh. I havnt had that happen YET, but I have had ppl look down at my tummy and smile....lol.

[SweetDreams]

Yeow! In this day and age, people still do that? (Y'all have to remember that I'm from Seattle where everyone is so polite that you don't know you've been dissed until they're long gone!) I actually find it rude to even mention someone's pregnancy unless they've told me themselves about it. Ya just never know.

Besides, I've had friends that actually were pregnant and were totally offended by someone coming up and touching their bellies without even asking permission.

Totally right...WHO DOES THAT?! Good for you for laughing it off and moving right along. It says way more about them than it does you.

[Humminandhawin...]

Good for you Anna to have such a great attitude and be able to slough it off and laugh about it...

Since I've put on weight, I have coworkers talking behind my back about whether I'm pregnant or not and some of them who actually have the nerve will come and ask, "So??? I heard you might have some news???" looking at my belly. And even the SAME male coworker who obviously grew up in a cave, continually asks me under different guises whether I'm pregnant! UNbelievable. I wish I could laugh it off, I just get SO upset and it takes every ounce of strength I have to stop myself from bursting out in tears.

"I heard from someone that you might be taking maternity leave soon???" "Do you have some 'good' news to share?" "OH, I won't ask you about 'that thing' again since you asked me to stop...but,...I figure you'll tell us if there's something to tell, right?"

I hear this all the time lately since my recent weight gain...I was never skinny, but I've gained probably around 15 lbs in the last 10 mos or so. What am I a gestational elephant?! Jeez. I'm so tired of hearing ppl talk about other ppl's weight gains, or losses, and commenting on "Oh did you see ....she's gained SO much weight!" Or,..."did you see...she lost SO much weight! She looks so good!" It's just so annoying why someone's weight is such a repeated topic of such high interest!

How do you ladies do it, when you're insulted or asked such completely insensitive questions? How do you fake that it doesn't hurt? I'm having a hard time doing it...I have to go into the bathroom and just bawl my eyes out...and wait for the annoying 'redness' in my face to subside...could take a LONG time. THEN you'll have to explain yourself, or answer the question, "Are you OK?" NO!! Jeez...

Booked my first Consultation next week. I can't wait, I'm so fed up with myself I need a new path. In spite of this downer message, I am very excited to get started...

[LadyLynda]

I have never directly been asked anything like that, but I KNOW my weight is a much-discussed topic amongst my coworkers. I am like Oprah, I have been on the diet yo-yo for several years. It seems whenever I'm on the "downslide" that is when the claws come out, and I'll hear second-hand how so-and-so says "she'll gain it back anyway." Ugh.

On a brighter note, I am more resolved than ever to get the weight off, once and for all. I have been treating the underlying issues with a therapist for over a year, and now back on JC for a second and final time, down about 20 lbs in a month!

Try to just let comments go in one ear and out the other, and you can use it as motivation to show those Debbie Downers just how committed you are when they see you are losing. Until then, keep smiling!

[Vexy]

How do you ladies do it, when you're insulted or asked such completely insensitive questions? How do you fake that it doesn't hurt?

If this is happening at work, you could report the behavior to Human Resources. That is grounds for a hostile work environment, especially if they have been asked to stop.

My advice is to remember that most gossip of that kind originates from people who have their own problems and secrets they cannot deal with themselves. Putting down others is a way to make a person feel better about their own shortcomings. For instance, our persistent questioner may have other personal troubles to deal with, and irritating you helps him to feel above those problems.

You can also picture sacrificing him to the local volcano god. That's a personal favorite of mine.

[LisaNBC]

This has totally happened to me once at work. I work at a salon and we had one girl there who was very thin, but very pregnant. This man comes up to pay for his hair cut and me, the pregger girl and another girl who is overweight too were sitting up there and this JERK says "oooh, it must be in the water!". The other overweight girl just looks at him and bluntly goes "No, we're just FAT..." haha. That shut him up. But deep down, I was mortified and went to the bathroom and cried. Sadly, that was 3 years ago and I'm even bigger now than I was then. But oh well! It is what it is.

[reddyrawks]

I admit, I am totally guilty. I did that once to someone, I was so sure they were preggo. I asked and she politely said "no" I was mortified!! I never ever did that again. Once after that I saw a woman I thought for sure was preggers and I came within in an ounce of asking her but then I had flash backs of the first time I did it and I kept my trap shut. Good thing, she wasn't preggers.. I know now...once was enough, it is horrible and uncomfortable for both parties. I just claim I was young and dumb when I did that.

[IsabelleArcher]

This happened to me when I first started gaining weight several years ago. One person said to me "I didn't know you were pregnant!!" I was so embarrassed, and what surprised me was that she was overweight, and I would think that would make her more careful. There were also a few times when people have looked pointedly at my stomach and asked if I had "good news".

The world is full of people who just don't think.

[Blessed4Life2]

Many times before I started JC ppl would look right at my tummy, and I knew what they were thinking.....but like Lisa said, it is what it is. lol....I could clearly see myself in the mirror and I knew I was a big 'un......my own grandmother would blatantly say I was SO FAT...ha, and she was right, I was.....didnt upset me though, it was what it was. I would NEVER have enough nerve to ask someone if they were pregnant, unless they were in active labor and the baby was coming out. ha