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[Casanovas_Girl]

My son and I returned home from 2 days away visiting with my sister (who is nursing a broken foot) and my niece, to discover my MIL had ransacked my house in a bid to 'tidy up' while I was gone... let's just say we don't have the best relationship... anyhow I was upset but tried to hold it together because my young son was there, then my not so DH started screaming at me, then she pitched in, and the day went from bad to worse. My Mother had to come and get my son just to get him away from the drama, the poor kid was terrified. Up to that point he had never seen his paternal grandmother for the vile person she truly is, and I had never said anything bad about her in front of him because I didn't want to taint his relationship with my husbands side of the family.

Needless to say, despite the fact that I had stayed on JC while I was away, yesterday was a complete disaster, it started when we were running late and so I opted to have my Canadian bar, a yogurt and a coffee for breakfast and planned to eat my JC breakfast when I got home about 2 hours later... we hit bad rain on the drive home and that stretched to about 3 hours, and then with all the drama that went on, it ended up being 5 PM and I had not eaten anything since 9 AM. That's when things got very bad for me, I grabbed whatever was easiest, a PB & J sandwich, and then followed that with a fast food combo (plus an extra burger) around 10 PM. I know the reasons for my emotional eating are clear, and I knew what I was doing and that I would regret it. But under that kind of stress I really just didn't have the energy to care about anything... and my eyes are still a puffy mess from crying all afternoon. I know that things will get back on track today, my JCC will be calling me and that will be a huge help.

Just needed to vent... if you plan on bashing me for my obvious weakness or mistakes, save it. As much as I wish I had been able to stay on top of all my planned meals and snacks yesterday, I can clearly see that the emotional eating that got me to 350 lbs. in the first place does not just go away when you send in your food order. The important thing is that I don't let this completely derail what I have accomplished, and I take the time to focus on the goal again.

[mob2011]

Not going to bash you.... going to send you a ((((((((((((( HUG )))))))))))))) You had a bad day, it's a new day today, today you will get on program.

First thing to commend you on is that you realized you ran to food when you were upset you acknowledged it as the wrong move so that is fantastic. You don't need that crutch anymore.

I really hope that the day is a good one for you today. Life is too short to have so much drama.

Look at the good points, you had a tidy house

Enjoy your day today.

[vicky d]

It's great that you're realizing why you gave in to emotional eating. Each of us on here has had a "bad day" in their life, so I can definitely relate. Sometimes, uncontrollable and unforeseen things might happen to us. So you stray off plan, no biggie. This should not make you feel like a failure or that now that you've gone off plan for a day, might as well give up completely. Just know that you can still do this and get right back on plan today and still lose weight this week. Sorry you had such a rough day. I don't have the best relationship with my mil either,so I can relate. Just block her out of your ears lol

P.S. Try keeping some snacks around in odd places (like the car) from now on, so you're prepared for the unexpectable. I try to keep one pria bar in the car, my desk at work, and my fav purse I always take with me. Or sometimes I've bought extra JC snacks (like popcorn or cheese curls) and kept them around in those odd places, because you just never know when you might need one. And not eating for so many hours can be detrimental to your body and mind, causing you to overeat later.

[galadalime]

I am sorry you had such a rough day =(
I hope everything gets better with your family. Big hug to you!!!!!!!!!

[Dobie1]

I'm so sorry for everything you're having to go through. For what it's worth, I would have a major fit if anyone "tidied up" my house. Sounds like your MIL needs to take a flying leap, and your not-so-DH needs to grow a pair and stand up to her.

Emotional eating is why many of us are here, but there are situations where we have to cut ourselves some slack. It's the ability to recognize it, and not allow it to extend into a week's worth of pity hosted by McDonald's that will help us succeed. I had my first cheat this week (after 11 weeks completely on program), also in response to an emotional issue. I had to euthanize one of my dogs, and I came home and had 3 light beers. I'm not proud of it, but it's also not going to happen all the time. Previously I would have had a bottle of wine (or more) and binged on pizza. For me, it's a victory. I think you did fine, all considering.

Please take care!

[mob2011]

I'm so sorry for everything you're having to go through. For what it's worth, I would have a major fit if anyone "tidied up" my house. Sounds like your MIL needs to take a flying leap, and your not-so-DH needs to grow a pair and stand up to her.

Emotional eating is why many of us are here, but there are situations where we have to cut ourselves some slack. It's the ability to recognize it, and not allow it to extend into a week's worth of pity hosted by McDonald's that will help us succeed. I had my first cheat this week (after 11 weeks completely on program), also in response to an emotional issue. I had to euthanize one of my dogs, and I came home and had 3 light beers. I'm not proud of it, but it's also not going to happen all the time. Previously I would have had a bottle of wine (or more) and binged on pizza. For me, it's a victory. I think you did fine, all considering.

Please take care!

Dobie I am so sorry about the loss of your dog, that is such a hard thing. My heart goes out to you.

Dawn

[galadalime]

Dobie- I am so sorry about your dog. My heart breaks for you. I know how hard this is and just a few minutes ago I was thinking about my cat that died a year and a half ago. He would have been 20 this month. It still makes me tear up thinking about him. So sorry.

[RNStaceyB]

I'm so sorry for your horrible day! But, as previous posters have said, you've realized that you went to food for comfort! That's a huge step!

I hope your day today goes much better, and that you find it easier to stick to plan. Don't let that bad day get you down as far as your eating! You slipped, so what? Now, pull out your menu and start fresh!

It's progress, not perfection!

[Casanovas_Girl]

Thanks all for your kind words of encouragement, and Dobie, I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your beloved pet.

I also wanted to add the weirdest part of the whole argument with my MIL... I had almost forgotten it until I was chatting with my JCC (who is awesomesauce!) today. Mid-way through her crazy rant about how useless I am, and what a bad wife and mother I am, my MIL pauses and says, "you lost weight, you look good." I was thinking to myself, gee thanks for the compliment, NOT. It did not make me feel any better... but it is just proof she is a crazy person, so I can laugh about it now.

[joan719]

Hi, I just wanted to chime in, and show my understanding of your awful day, as all the others have written here. I fully understand being an emotional eater for most of my life, but somehow these days, good health is in my forefront. I do hope that your situation will eventually resolve itself, and sometimes, you have to put yourself first to overcome obstacles. It is difficult to do, because, us "Ladies" always place family first. That's what we do! God bless you.

And, Dobie, you surely have my understanding as well as my sympathy in the loss of your beloved friend.