Is anyone else loosing weight partially because they think it will boost their dating life? Everyone I have been seeing in the chatroom is attached or is married.
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Started by LuckyK, Jul 17 2010 09:59 PM
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Posted 18 July 2010 - 09:23 AM
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Is anyone else loosing weight partially because they think it will boost their dating life? Everyone I have been seeing in the chatroom is attached or is married.
I believe everyone has a reason that motivates them. Make sure you are doing this for yourself. If someone is worth your while, they will love/like you the way you are. I've gone on diets in the past hoping it would help me with my relationship, but in reality...it was the wrong reason for me. I had to reach a point where I was doing it for myself...and my health. Only you can make you happy. I wish you the best on JC. You CAN do it!
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Posted 18 July 2010 - 12:57 PM
Hi LuckyK!
Yes I must say that one of my reasons for losing weight is simply to be more attractive to men. I am 33 and single. I have not always been overweight and I know that men look at me differently when I am slimmer. Well... to be honest: right now I am invisible to men. And when I was 80 lbs lighter I had definitely more relationships or at least choices.
We'll see... it's another year at least until I hit goal so this is a real longterm study!
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Yes I must say that one of my reasons for losing weight is simply to be more attractive to men. I am 33 and single. I have not always been overweight and I know that men look at me differently when I am slimmer. Well... to be honest: right now I am invisible to men. And when I was 80 lbs lighter I had definitely more relationships or at least choices.
We'll see... it's another year at least until I hit goal so this is a real longterm study!
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Posted 18 July 2010 - 01:09 PM
Hi there!!!!
Initially, I lost weight to be in relationship -- but what I realized after I'd lost 50 lbs, was that men were attracted to the attitude of confidence that I had developed as I dropped the pounds. They didn't care how big my butt or thighs were... And you can start cultivating that attitude now, while the weight comes off! So hold your head high, make eye contact and smile! If you're loving you, the right guy will too...
Initially, I lost weight to be in relationship -- but what I realized after I'd lost 50 lbs, was that men were attracted to the attitude of confidence that I had developed as I dropped the pounds. They didn't care how big my butt or thighs were... And you can start cultivating that attitude now, while the weight comes off! So hold your head high, make eye contact and smile! If you're loving you, the right guy will too...
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Posted 18 July 2010 - 01:16 PM
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Hi there!!!!
Initially, I lost weight to be in relationship -- but what I realized after I'd lost 50 lbs, was that men were attracted to the attitude of confidence that I had developed as I dropped the pounds. They didn't care how big my butt or thighs were... And you can start cultivating that attitude now, while the weight comes off! So hold your head high, make eye contact and smile! If you're loving you, the right guy will too...
Initially, I lost weight to be in relationship -- but what I realized after I'd lost 50 lbs, was that men were attracted to the attitude of confidence that I had developed as I dropped the pounds. They didn't care how big my butt or thighs were... And you can start cultivating that attitude now, while the weight comes off! So hold your head high, make eye contact and smile! If you're loving you, the right guy will too...
Thanks for your post! Well... I can already feel how only losing 26 lbs makes me more confident and happier so I suppose it will show eventually in my contacts with men too. I do hope so but I also don't really push it. Right now I'd rather stick to my Jenny plan instead of dating and going out for dinners a lot! Being in a relationship always makes me gain weight because of going out a lot and going for drinks or dinner. I just don't want to be distracted by a man right now. One step at a time and one change at a time!
But you bet I will look out if my changing appearance and self confidence makes a difference!
Start Weight: 284 lbs - Apr 19, 2010
1. goal: 266 lbs (5%) - May 9, 2010
2. goal: 252 lbs (10%) - July 25, 2010
3. goal: 238 lbs (15%) - ?? Halloween, 2010
4. goal: 224 lbs (20%) - ?? Christmas 2010
5. goal: 210 lbs (25%) - ?? Canada Day 2011
6. goal: 196 lbs (30%) - ?? Labour Day 2011
7. goal: 182 lbs (35%) - ?? Christmas 2011
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Halloween Challenge
1. goal: 266 lbs (5%) - May 9, 2010
2. goal: 252 lbs (10%) - July 25, 2010
3. goal: 238 lbs (15%) - ?? Halloween, 2010
4. goal: 224 lbs (20%) - ?? Christmas 2010
5. goal: 210 lbs (25%) - ?? Canada Day 2011
6. goal: 196 lbs (30%) - ?? Labour Day 2011
7. goal: 182 lbs (35%) - ?? Christmas 2011
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Posted 21 July 2010 - 12:16 PM
I'd say I'm doing it for myself more than anything else. Tired of the parents friends going "ohh still holding onto that puppy fat I see!" GRRR.
Though - and I won't lie here - a very very large part of me is doing this to wreak vengeance on a certain male who made some rather rude comments about me. No dating history, but he turned out to be some "friend".
Though - and I won't lie here - a very very large part of me is doing this to wreak vengeance on a certain male who made some rather rude comments about me. No dating history, but he turned out to be some "friend".
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Posted 24 July 2010 - 07:56 PM
Thanks everyone for your replies.
I just felt that a lot of the other JCer's that I was chatting with didn't get where I was coming from because they were past the "normal" marrying age or were already married.
I have been on dates during my JC process but I feel I am not meeting my type of guy, so yes I am commited to JC because I think it will help my personal life. Some of these other people they go on diet/off diet and maybe they don't have at stake what I do.
I just felt that a lot of the other JCer's that I was chatting with didn't get where I was coming from because they were past the "normal" marrying age or were already married.
I have been on dates during my JC process but I feel I am not meeting my type of guy, so yes I am commited to JC because I think it will help my personal life. Some of these other people they go on diet/off diet and maybe they don't have at stake what I do.
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Posted 24 July 2010 - 07:59 PM
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Hi LuckyK!
Yes I must say that one of my reasons for losing weight is simply to be more attractive to men. I am 33 and single. I have not always been overweight and I know that men look at me differently when I am slimmer. Well... to be honest: right now I am invisible to men. And when I was 80 lbs lighter I had definitely more relationships or at least choices.
We'll see... it's another year at least until I hit goal so this is a real longterm study!)
Yes I must say that one of my reasons for losing weight is simply to be more attractive to men. I am 33 and single. I have not always been overweight and I know that men look at me differently when I am slimmer. Well... to be honest: right now I am invisible to men. And when I was 80 lbs lighter I had definitely more relationships or at least choices.
We'll see... it's another year at least until I hit goal so this is a real longterm study!
)Mermaid I can totally relate to you. I am 36 and started at 250 and was trying to loose 40-50 pounds minimum.
I would love to keep in touch with you on this forum.
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Posted 15 August 2010 - 08:42 AM
I'm 26 and I too admit that my dating life is part of my motivation for wanting to lose 30 lbs. I can get dates right now too, but I don't feel confident enough to ask any guy out that I like and not just who won't mind my weight.
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Posted 30 August 2010 - 10:32 PM
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I'm 26 and I too admit that my dating life is part of my motivation for wanting to lose 30 lbs. I can get dates right now too, but I don't feel confident enough to ask any guy out that I like and not just who won't mind my weight.
My advice to you as someone who is 10 years older than you..... loose the weight and keep it off now!
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Posted 01 September 2010 - 08:32 PM
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My advice to you as someone who is 10 years older than you..... loose the weight and keep it off now!
I totally get exactly what you ladies are talking about! I'm only 24, and have noticed a SERIOUS decline in the number of men that are romantically involved in my life. I used to be the girl who would go out, and always have her pick of the litter ... And even when I wasn't at my skinniest, it was my confidence that really drew people in -- I want that confidence back! I'm 24 and should be enjoying my life to the fullest -- not hiding in my house avoiding social contact in fear of the look on friends' faces when they see how much weight I've gained ... super depressing
Anyway, thanks for the post, and here's to hoping that JC works for me! I joined yesterday -- so far, so good!
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Posted 29 January 2011 - 05:47 PM
QUOTE(LuckyK @ Jul 17 2010, 09:59 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Is anyone else loosing weight partially because they think it will boost their dating life? Everyone I have been seeing in the chatroom is attached or is married.
I have to admit that dating is a part of my motivation for losing weight as well. I have been doing the online dating thing off and on for years, and I have always been terrified of meeting a guy for the first time for fear that he will think I'm fat and ugly. I wear a size 12-14, but would love to get down to a 6. I agree with what the rest of you have said though. I think it's the confidence, not necessarily the appearance, that attracts the men! But I just can't be confident until I get some of these pounds off! Good luck to all of you!
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Hi All,
I also just joined JC and am doing this because I want to lose weight. I don't necessarily think that losing the weight makes one comfortable in one's skin. A person has to feel that way no matter what size or shape they are. In my case I do understand that first impressions are very important when meeting someone of the opposite sex and to that end I'm doing this for me and to be able to present myself to the world. Also I think about the health issues associated with being overweight and that really scares me more than anything.
ChattKat, I can relate and am trying have the courage to do the online dating thing. I think part of me refuses to conform with the current status of socializing. I still believe in trying to meet men the old fashioned way...meeting them face to face first as opposed to e-mail and web chats....but I understand where the trend of dating is leading right now. LOL
But yes I so can relate to your feelings about being motivated to lose weight and dating. A lot of people don't want to admit that looks play an important part in meeting someone. People say that looks don't matter or is secondary to them but I believe many people lie about that or refuse to be honest with themselves. Let me be clear in saying that it is not the most important part but it is a significant part. I think of it as a job interview. If you come to an interview looking a certain way (sloppy, not groomed, tired-looking) I don't think any potential employer will give you the time of day especially if there are ten other candidates hoping to get the same job. I hate to say this but dating and finding a mate seem to be the same thing nowadays. I think that personality and character are always the overwhelming factors in finding a good mate but there is something to be said about presenting yourself in the best light possible and also carrying yourself with confidence and self-assurance. For me I feel that if I don't feel like I look my best then I won't be able to convey that to the world. So yes I too am doing this to look better.
I also just joined JC and am doing this because I want to lose weight. I don't necessarily think that losing the weight makes one comfortable in one's skin. A person has to feel that way no matter what size or shape they are. In my case I do understand that first impressions are very important when meeting someone of the opposite sex and to that end I'm doing this for me and to be able to present myself to the world. Also I think about the health issues associated with being overweight and that really scares me more than anything.
ChattKat, I can relate and am trying have the courage to do the online dating thing. I think part of me refuses to conform with the current status of socializing. I still believe in trying to meet men the old fashioned way...meeting them face to face first as opposed to e-mail and web chats....but I understand where the trend of dating is leading right now. LOL
But yes I so can relate to your feelings about being motivated to lose weight and dating. A lot of people don't want to admit that looks play an important part in meeting someone. People say that looks don't matter or is secondary to them but I believe many people lie about that or refuse to be honest with themselves. Let me be clear in saying that it is not the most important part but it is a significant part. I think of it as a job interview. If you come to an interview looking a certain way (sloppy, not groomed, tired-looking) I don't think any potential employer will give you the time of day especially if there are ten other candidates hoping to get the same job. I hate to say this but dating and finding a mate seem to be the same thing nowadays. I think that personality and character are always the overwhelming factors in finding a good mate but there is something to be said about presenting yourself in the best light possible and also carrying yourself with confidence and self-assurance. For me I feel that if I don't feel like I look my best then I won't be able to convey that to the world. So yes I too am doing this to look better.
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Posted 04 March 2011 - 07:52 PM
I will admit that is one of my reasons for starting this process. I have always been confident about my inner self and I've always said "if he can't accept the way I am at 220 pounds then I move on." But I've also noticed that I'm not attracting men (or at least men who don't scare me!) like I did when I was 150 pounds. I think everyone, at some point wants to know they are attractive and wanted. So if I still can't get a date after I reach my goal weight, then I know it wasn't the fat 
But I must admit, it is a very, VERY small motivation for me. Sort of a "it would be nice" thing. My health is the number one reason. And someone who comes along eventually, maybe, then he will only benefit from my feeling better.
But I must admit, it is a very, VERY small motivation for me. Sort of a "it would be nice" thing. My health is the number one reason. And someone who comes along eventually, maybe, then he will only benefit from my feeling better.
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Posted 12 May 2011 - 08:32 AM
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I believe everyone has a reason that motivates them. Make sure you are doing this for yourself. If someone is worth your while, they will love/like you the way you are. I've gone on diets in the past hoping it would help me with my relationship, but in reality...it was the wrong reason for me. I had to reach a point where I was doing it for myself...and my health. Only you can make you happy. I wish you the best on JC. You CAN do it!
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Posted 12 May 2011 - 08:37 AM
Laura, you are so right. you have to do it for yourself. you have to truly love yourself first and everything will follow in place.
I am restarting again, went through so much in my separation with my boyfriend and now that is over, it's time for me to RESTART .....FRESH, wish me luck
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Laura, you are so right. you have to do it for yourself. you have to truly love yourself first and everything will follow in place.
I am restarting again, went through so much in my separation with my boyfriend and now that is over, it's time for me to RESTART .....FRESH, wish me luck .
I am restarting again, went through so much in my separation with my boyfriend and now that is over, it's time for me to RESTART .....FRESH, wish me luck
.Good Luck and I wish you much success. I may be separating with my boyfriend, not sure yet...it is so hard and at almost 48, going out into the dating world again really is so unappealing. I sometimes think I will be alone forever
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Posted 14 May 2011 - 01:28 PM
QUOTE(LuckyK @ Jul 17 2010, 11:59 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Is anyone else loosing weight partially because they think it will boost their dating life? Everyone I have been seeing in the chatroom is attached or is married.
I agree with all the commentary about loving yourself, but I think that as a single person, losing weight is EXTREMELY helpful in the dating arena. Whether online or in person, it's the exterior that first catches the eye of the opposite sex. I think there's NOTHING wrong with losing a little weight to attract some new gentlemen, and I think I'm so much more confident now than I was 50 lbs ago that it's clearly helping me in this area.
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Posted 28 May 2011 - 09:30 AM
I'm 33, a single mom, and I'm losing weight for health number one. Dating again is also on my top ten list. I've been single a long time(years and years), and want to have a romantic relationship. My son is graduating high school, and I'm tired of spending my weekends alone. I won't strong, loving arms around me. I know that I have to make improvements with myself first, and that is what i'm trying to do.
I've never had a great relationship before, and am wanting the opportunity to have one. I've had only frogs and dogs, and I know that there's some good men out there or man out there for me.
I've never had a great relationship before, and am wanting the opportunity to have one. I've had only frogs and dogs, and I know that there's some good men out there or man out there for me.
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