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[seenewme2]

Hi - I'm a divorced single mom of three - a 16 year old daughter, 11 year old son, and a 4 year old daughter.

I was separated for 2 years and my divorce was finalized in December '07. I've done a lot of healing and have grown personally and spiritually through my divorce experience. I went from surviving to thriving, but the one change I haven't made yet is losing the weight I put on throughout my marriage. I joined JC last week because I decided it is finally time to focus on myself and make my fitness level match the level I've achieved in other areas of my life. I am very motivated and after 4 days, already feel healthier. My eating was just out of control and I didn't make time for myself for exercise, etc. I put everyone else first, but I will now schedule my program and exercise into my life, as a gift to myself. I turn 40 next month and want to start the next decade of my life in a new and healthier way.

I'd love to chat with others and hear your stories!

[MarianH]

Hi there! I am a Seattle gal looking for JC buddy! I go in at 2:00 today for my first cosult. I was actually hoping there would be some live support groups but will give an email buddy a go. I have never joined a chat group before but really need and am looking for support as I go through the program. I have not entered my stats on line yet but I am 5'9 current weight is 168 and my goal is to get back to 145. I am a single mom of 2 children and have lost 70 after baby 1 and then 60 after baby 2 so I know I can lose 28 pounds! I am a big time emotional eater tending to reach for my kids yummy snacks when lonely. I am going to work on checking in with my JC consultant and chat buddies to try holding myself accountable for what I put into my mouth. I have the will power when it comes to exercise but very weak in eating discipline, tending to binge but not purge( thank goodness!) and obviously need to do with out either! Wish me luck and I shall do the same for you, have a great day!!!

[valerie0118]

Hi All,
I am a single mother of an 18 yr old. I've been divorced for two years after a 22 yr long marriage. He suffered from depression and I finally realized that I couldn't make him happy and stopped trying.....then he moved on to another relationship before the divorce was final. My weight creeped up over that 22 years after a pattern of yo-yo dieting. He was constantly critical of my weight but I was concentrating on raising my child and trying to keep life moving forward for all of us. My weight didn't concern me and in fact his criticism made me resent him for looking at just my weight and not everything I did for him and our daughter. I did my best with him but realized that I needed to start taking care of me so that I would be there for my daughter. I started back on an exercise program and did Atkins and lost 30 pounds before the separation. Then I maintained for a while after the divorce but it started to creep back on last year once I settled into a new relationship with a guy who cares for me regardless of what I look like. When I hit my all time high weight in December (2007), I realized I needed to take control of my weight and not get blissfully fatter (happiness made me relax!). I considered doing Atkins again. I remembered that Atkins worked well for me in the beginning but I started to get really really bad carb cravings and couldn't stay at it. Thus, Jenny Craig has entered my life.

My ex was constantly critical. I never heard a compliment only criticism. I didn't realize this until our first split and then I went through a couple years of counselling where I thought I was the problem. The counselor finally told me that she thought I was one of the most sane people she had ever treated and to stop kicking myself for not being able to make HIM happy. We reconciled that time. My daughter was 6 yrs old and I thought she really still needed her Daddy. I loved him and was willing to work at the marriage if he was also. He did work on it....for about 3 years....then back to the same old self...criticizing and grumbling at both me and my daughter. This time when he told me he was moving out (the day after Christmas 2006), I told him to let me help him pack.

I can't say that I eat more when I'm happy or when I'm sad.....just like to eat food! I need to concentrate on what is going in and how much I'm moving myself to burn it off. I am committed to losing at least 50 lbs (hopefully today I'm 1/2 way there) and staying as healthy as I can be. My motivation is the memory of being at my all time high weight, my knees and ankles hurting, my breath leaving as I climbed a set of stairs, and realizing that I was growing out of my FAT clothes. At 50 lbs overweight I realized that I would be virtually immobile if I put on much more weight! I love to golf, ride bikes, take walks, and though I complain about it...exercise. Time to take charge single parents.....we need to be the best we can be! Hope to make some friends here....I lost all of my JC friends during the web-site change a few months ago. Have great days everyone!

Valerie