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[Charlier77]

Just wandering if anyone else has a husband who works away from home. I am 29 and have 3 kids. I get to see my husban 1 day out of the week.

[nick6936]

Hey, way to go on the amazing weight loss!!
I am also a single mom of 2 - 17 yr old daughter, 14 yr old son who joined the program w/me.
We are only on day 3!!
My husband and I divorced 12/01, however he came back and lived in my basement (as a renter only) 7/04 and reconnected w/the kids. Unfortunately he died suddenly at the age of 46 in 1/05.
My son and I are doing this together since we have not had much else to do together. His dad always coached all the various sports teams he was on, I am sport-brain-smart, but really, really suck on the sport-activity stuff. I can't even use a mitt!!!
Hope all is well, keep up your good work!
Karen

[cayman girl]

To charlier77-my husband and I are living in different states, so I totally understand. The holidays weren't bad, he was home alot, but now I'm not going to see him for 2 more weeks and the kids won't see him until next month. I just started JC and your progress is inspiring! Take care!

[in for the long run]

I also know what it's like to have your spouse away for much of the time. Mine is gone for about 20 days a month and always on weekends and holidays. I have two boys 9 and 12. We just do what we have to do, and the boys and I are very close. There are things that don't get done to some peoples' standards, but that's really ok. I now feel comfortable enough to leave them alone for a couple of hours so that I can work out, or just run errands. That development has really helped.
I'm the only one in my circle of friends that is in this situation, and they just don't get it. They have their husbands home on weekends, holidays, and nights. Sometimes it really is hard not to be jealous. However (this is just about my feelings, and is not a judgment about anyone else who posted) I knew when I married my husband (he was in the Navy at the time) that we would spend lots of time apart. Even though he is no longer in the military, it is just the same. His job keeps him away, and I knew that before I had kids. So I deal with it.

[mom2matt25]

Hi my name is Lilybeth and I am a single mom of jut one baby boy. he is 5 months. i was with the baby's father for 1 year 1/2 and well he cheated on me and he was out the door before he can say otherwise. It's hard to keep myself motivated but i am doing it for Matt and myself. I want to be heathly and active so when he's a bit older i can run around with him and keep up.
I admire you wemen that have husbands that are away from home. My ex husband was in the Airforce and we were apart most of the time we were married and it was hard on us. i guess that is why it ended. but you all keep up the good work.
Take care!

[Charlier77]

Hi all sorry I havent been on in a while then computer has been down. I would like to say thank you to everyone who has shared a bit of there story. I feel although we have never met we all have a closeness because we are all on the same path in life. I have lost more weight I am now down to 178lbs I slowed down threw the holiday but am now back on track. The local newspaper is fallowing me for a yr now to track mine and 5 others on our wieght loss. Ill try to keep current here and would really love to hear back from everyone. Life can be so lonely when you are alone all the time. I love my kids but sometimes I would like to talk about something other then shoe tying, potting training.lol talk to you all soon. MeLissa

[Charlier77]

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[latinbutterflyprincessa]

I am a single mom with a 10 year old son. I have been single since he was born and have raised him by myself. I am a JC returnee and have lost one pound so far. LOL Better than nothing.....

[babySTEPPINbyDrLeoMarvin]

I joined JC today and am a single mom of a tween dd and twins ds and dd who are 9. It is challenging as their father lives in another part of the country and we are in la county in CA.
I want my children to see my example in everything else so I decided that my health is an area where I was failing as an example. I am now changing that and happy to be here on this board.
Tamara

[two4one]

I'm a single mum of 7 year old twins. I've been on JC since November, but struggling to keep motivated and so have been down and back up with my weight. I can't seem to find the time to exercise and get frustrated with the whole process (plus my ex) and sabotage my efforts. But I'm not giving up!

[bgood]

two4one - I am also from TO. I am a single mother of two boys (15 & 12). I seem to be struggling lately as well and then feel guilty for spending the money on JC and not losing weight as I could really use that money elsewhere.
We just have to keep plugging away. It is such an emotional rollercoaster trying to lose weight and then add on the emotional issues of raising kids on your own it becomes even more difficult. I come to these boards everyday to look for support. I don't always post but reading others journeys helps me.
It must be hard with 7 yr old twins as well. The hardest part is getting back up after a fall...if you can do that then you will conquer this weight demon.
Take care

[Natlookingood]

Hi Everyone, I just wanted to relay that yesterday WI is one pound less. Yes! Happy days are here again!!!!I glad something is coming off. This past week was rough with Baby shower and family illness, but I made it through.Keep striving for your goal.
Natasha/34yrs - Single Mom of 1
SD - 3/4/07
SW - 162.8
HW - 139 Counselor predicted by summer - I don't know- was hoping to be less by summer
GW - 120
GW - 115
1st WI -2.8 ate small amts xtrafoods,excer= 4days
2nd WI - 1 excer 3 days
3rd WI +.4 excer 2 days told to increase excercise
4th WI - 1 exer 1 day (CW-158)

[two4one]

Thanks for the encouragement Bgood - you are doing fantastic.
I too, justusually read the message boards for motivation (this is only my 2nd posting). I know that I just need to move myself up the priority list and get on with this. I'm hoping that once success happens, I will be able to stay better focused.

[danadoll2000]

Hi everyone....I am a single mom of three great kids. 2 daughters and a son who are ages 13, 12 , and 10. I have been on Jenny since April of 07 so 10 months now and I have lost almost 100 pounds. I have 20 more to go to make my goal weight and I can't wait. I am hoping to achieve that by my anniversary date. I think Jenny is just wonderful! Hope to talk to you all again soon.

[Inkiri]

I am glad to see this post. My husband got a new job in January and moved out of state. I'm alone with our 2 small kids, working full time, and trying to sell our house. It's lonely and frustrating. I sometimes envy divorced women because their exes have to see the kids and they're allowed to go out on dates.
When DH moved away for his job, I joined JC because now I don't have to cook for him anymore and that keeps a lot of tempting food out of the house. I mostly fix sandwiches for my kids, which they love.
My heart goes out to every woman living without a husband, whether it's for work, divorce, or widowhood.

[readytochange2008]

Hi. I am also a married but living the life of a single mom. During the week, I work late two nights and my husband works late the other two weekday nights and one weekend day (lately both Sat and Sun). I have a 6 yo son. I am finding it hard to find time for myself. It's hard to make it to the gym. I have some childcare arrangements while I am working but not much help otherwise. I tend to overeat at the end of the day when I feel tired and depleted and stuck at home. I started JC two years ago, lost 30 lbs in the first six months, and have slowly gained much of it back over the past year and a half. When I started JC, I had more "me" time and was working p/t. I am now working f/t, have somewhat less financial pressure, but less time for myself. What had really helped me when I first joined was having the online supports here but then my group faded and I slacked more and more until I stopped writing, counting, limiting, etc . . . with a return to all the old counterproductive habits.

[raven2feathers2003]

Ya'all are very inspirational to me, thank you. Keep on trying, if I didn't I wouldn't be down to where I am now. I got so depressed, being a single mother, that I ended up weighing in at the hospital, on a special scale mind you because a "normal" scale couldn't weigh me, I was to fat. When I climbed up on that scale after the birth of my son I weighed 545 lbs and just about died right there. I cried so hard I nearly threw up. It was then that I decided that this must stop or I knew I would die, literally. So......

I started walking at first and cutting down on what I ate and keeping in mind that since I was a single mother, of two little babies at the time and they were newborn and 17 months old, and that they only had me to count on that I had to do this for me and for them.

This was before I found JC and I ended up doing stupid things to lose the weight, starvation was one thing I used, and got sick and nearly damaged my internal organs permenantly, I thank the Lord that didn't happen.

I got to 358 lbs and joined JC in January 2009. I still couldn't weigh on a "normal" scale but they had one that worked for me. I'm now down to a little over 314 lbs and I'm so happy about that because soon I will be out of the 3's and I'm going to celebrate big time, with a pedi/manicure combo just for me. Anyway Please DON'T GIVE UP ON YOURSELVES, You're worth the time and the money that you put into it, trust me !

I just wanted to say how happy I am that you all have found the courage it took me years to find and start on this wonderful journey that will lead us all to healthier happier lives, congratulations to us all !