Well, where should I start. I am a single woman, never married and have a beautiful 3 year old girl. Her father left me when I was 4 months pregnant. We worked together. He told me he was married when our daughter was 2 months old. I will never forget that day for as long as I live. I saw the signs but, ignored all of them.
Her father has now made it his mission to just totally make me look like an evil villain. I was injured on the job and have been off on medical leave for a year now. He has a free for all at work.
I have finally come to terms with accepting that he won't be part of our daughters life. She is exceptional. I know she will be just fine.
I have been overweight a majority of my life. I did do Jenny Craig in 1993 and lost 46 pounds. I have gained it back and then some.
This is a clean break for me. I applaud all single women out there.
I want to be thin by 40. I just turned 39 last month. I have a total of 70 pounds to lose. I am going to give it my best shot. It is time for things to turn around. One step at a time.
I have my 1st weigh in tomorrow and I think that I did lose some weight. Even if it were a pound I will still be happy.
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Single with a three year old
Started by athenafdm, Jan 09 2006 02:14 PM
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Posted 09 January 2006 - 03:50 PM
Hi athenafdm,
Welcome to JC. It sounds like your ready to do something for yourself. I wish you all the luck. You can do it! I have struggled with my weight forever. My highest was around 190 lbs. I lost most of the weight on my own but tried JC 8 years ago to take off the last 20. I did but regained 2 years ago. I am almost there but I want you to know I understand the whole issue involving losing weight. Been there and still doing that! I can relate to you as far as my childrens father(Ihave 2 boys) not being in the picture. When we divorced 9 years ago he divorced our kids too. My boys know I love them enough for two parents and your daughter will be fine too! If they can't seperate the two I say to he-- with them. Just remember it is his loss. Take care of you and your daughter. Don't worry or try to change your daughter's father. He will probably never change. Again it is his loss. Concentrate on taking care of you, the rest will fall into place. When you least expect it you may meet a really great guy. I now have a wonderful boyfriend i have been with for 6 years. So trust me not all men are losers. In the meantime you are heading in the right direction. JC is a great program. This message board really helps too. Even though you are just starting I would like to be your buddy. It sounds like we have a lot in common. I am 41. Let me know how your meeting goes tomorrow. Take one day at a time. Youv'e alreay taken the first step.
Jeanne
Welcome to JC. It sounds like your ready to do something for yourself. I wish you all the luck. You can do it! I have struggled with my weight forever. My highest was around 190 lbs. I lost most of the weight on my own but tried JC 8 years ago to take off the last 20. I did but regained 2 years ago. I am almost there but I want you to know I understand the whole issue involving losing weight. Been there and still doing that! I can relate to you as far as my childrens father(Ihave 2 boys) not being in the picture. When we divorced 9 years ago he divorced our kids too. My boys know I love them enough for two parents and your daughter will be fine too! If they can't seperate the two I say to he-- with them. Just remember it is his loss. Take care of you and your daughter. Don't worry or try to change your daughter's father. He will probably never change. Again it is his loss. Concentrate on taking care of you, the rest will fall into place. When you least expect it you may meet a really great guy. I now have a wonderful boyfriend i have been with for 6 years. So trust me not all men are losers. In the meantime you are heading in the right direction. JC is a great program. This message board really helps too. Even though you are just starting I would like to be your buddy. It sounds like we have a lot in common. I am 41. Let me know how your meeting goes tomorrow. Take one day at a time. Youv'e alreay taken the first step.
Jeanne
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Posted 12 January 2006 - 08:32 AM
Hello athenafdm,
Wow, I know how you feel. I am also a single mom of a toddler and it can be rough trying to lose weight when you have little to NO time for yourself! Exercise, when am I supposed to do that? LOL.
E-mail me if you need a buddy!
Wow, I know how you feel. I am also a single mom of a toddler and it can be rough trying to lose weight when you have little to NO time for yourself! Exercise, when am I supposed to do that? LOL.
E-mail me if you need a buddy!
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Posted 12 January 2006 - 04:02 PM
Hi Athenafdm,
I too am a single parent of a 3 year old lil boy. Im 22 so that makes it a bit harder as im going to school I need to lose at least 70lbs. My son's father still comes around whenever he wants to see him which is not that offten I dont think that he will be around much longer but i think that will prolly be for the best as when he is here hes always a sleep or he just puts a movie on in the bedroom and doesnt do anything with him. There are a lot of people in my sons life who love him so much and i love him enough for 2 people.. If you need someone to talk to send me a message
Kristy
I too am a single parent of a 3 year old lil boy. Im 22 so that makes it a bit harder as im going to school I need to lose at least 70lbs. My son's father still comes around whenever he wants to see him which is not that offten I dont think that he will be around much longer but i think that will prolly be for the best as when he is here hes always a sleep or he just puts a movie on in the bedroom and doesnt do anything with him. There are a lot of people in my sons life who love him so much and i love him enough for 2 people.. If you need someone to talk to send me a message
Kristy
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Posted 16 January 2006 - 04:17 PM
You aren't alone!
I am a single mom of a just turned 3 year old boy.
I have been with JC since before xmas.
I love the simplicity of the program. I have come to learn that if I buy extra dinners my little guy will eat them with me otherwise he eats ALL of mine. It costs a bit more but Then I am able to stay on program.
Its a tough thing to go through, being a single parent, but, I wouldn't change it for the world.
You can do this!!
I am a single mom of a just turned 3 year old boy.
I have been with JC since before xmas.
I love the simplicity of the program. I have come to learn that if I buy extra dinners my little guy will eat them with me otherwise he eats ALL of mine. It costs a bit more but Then I am able to stay on program.
Its a tough thing to go through, being a single parent, but, I wouldn't change it for the world.
You can do this!!
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